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SS and BM - sometimes things just seem weird

step off already's picture

Last night, one of the gifts we gave SS for his bday was a card with some Xbox points. It also had a code to unlock something special for a game that he has at his mom's.

He was like, "oh, that game's at mom's", DH told him to bring it over and SS said that she won't let him. I said, "well, just take the card to your mom's and use it over there". He has had his Xbox taken away over here anyway, and we don't let him play much over here so it really doesn't matter to me in the least.

He said, "no, I'd rather use it over here" which I thought was strange. He's had his stuff taken away for over a month because of not getting his school work done and the game that it was for is rated M for Mature so he can't even play it unless my kids are with their dad.

I said, "well, ask your mom if you can bring the game over during Spring Break and see what she says".

I don't know. Just weird.

With my bios, they can bring things back and forth for the most part if they have a reason too. XH and I keep track of things we've purchased and may ask for them to bring back special shoes or a certain jacket if we have an occasion in mind that they'll need it. We even let them bring electronics back/forth on special occasions /requests if it makes sense.

What do you all do with this kind of stuff?

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msg1986's picture

we don't allow Fss to take things to BMs but that's because she refuses to give anything back. Fss sometimes brings things with him to our house but we always make sure to send him back with whatever he brought with him. But anything he goes home with, esp new clothes. when we pick him up he's wearing tattered clothes that are too small, the silly thing is, Fss has mentioned several times how BM and Bm's mother who watches Fss will change him to his "old clothes" before FDH picks him up every Friday.

Jsmom's picture

We never allowed anything to leave our house but their school backpack. If it went to BM's it never was seen again.
Same rule with Gift cards and money from BDays. They have to spend it with us.

Stopped a lot of drama when DH enforced the rule.

misSTEP's picture

Anything we allowed over to BMs would never come back. That is probably why she refused to let them take things (like DVDs etc) to our place. She probably thought we were as vile as she is.