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Opinions Please: Was this worded correctly?

step off already's picture

This summer BM will have two weeks on/ off visitation with SS13 for the first time. The CO does not state what the dates will be, so DH and I decided to write BM a letter with the proposed schedule. Since there is a Restraining Order against her, and she likes to argue about EVERYTHING we thought this would be the simplest way to handle it. Our fear was that if we didn't make the first move she'd either a) blow it off or b) come up with something crazy.

Basically, we offered that her first two week visit would start on summer's first Friday visit (the one that usually starts her EOWE) and then run for two weeks. Exchanges would occur on Fridays and would then return to EOWE after school began back up. Nothing odd here.

We will be providing her the letter Friday during her next scheduled visit.

We also added that we trust she will bring SS to his practices which will be held at a specific times during her visitation, per the court order. We also put something in there that she should contact us ASAP should this not work for her.

Anything you think that should be included in the letter? Or something that should be adjusted?

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step off already's picture

LOL- this will be the interesting part (especially since we also took the opportunity to remind her of the "no contact" part of the restraining order and that we'll no longer let her text messages slide and that we WILL be calling the police should she continue to break the order.

step off already's picture

Well, he finally filed for the restraining order after she popped his tires and put sugar in his gas tank, the first time. She did it again while under the temporary order when she found out where we were living via the request for child support.

But she has a history of violent behavior with him and constant texts, etc.

The order calls for no contact with the exception of "peaceful contact in regards to court ordered visitation".

tryingmom's picture

I'd have to insert a calendar in the text of the email so it would be VERY clear, but thats just me. Visuals can help crazy. Smile