SD ECAs and general update
Well I haven't blogged in a while but I'm still around reading and commenting. Anyways, I thought I would make this shocking update. At least it is shocking to me. SD managed to make it through her field hockey season injury free. She still has softball so we shall see. I'm not sure how it happened. Maybe she got tired of people calling her out on her fake injuries for attention. Maybe because she only played like 5 minutes in each game (or not at all) or maybe because she actually liked it and didn't want to get out of it like she did cheer....IDK but it is a miracle! LOL!
I know I got a lot of crap when I posted about calling the cops on BM not following the CO but guess what....it shut her down a bit. She hasn't threatened court since and in order to look like she was the reasonable one in front of the therapist she now does pick up at a police department that is equal distance from both homes. The therapist knows that we suggested this prior to the cops being called and etc but BM still thinks she looks like MOTY and the therapist is her bff (LOL) but it worked out for us so whatever.
DH finally stopped engaging in all of BM's crazy rants after every visit. I wish I could say that was because he listened to me but it was b/c the therapist told him the exact same thing so at least that is improved regardless.
I have decided that when we do have SD I am going to completely disengage which has been hard for me but the kid gives me anxiety with her constant attention seeking. It drives me crazy that BM overbooks her in ECAs and it is a pain for DH to drive her all over the place for these activities but at least it gives me a break from her when she is at our place. I'll take it as a plus from now on. Go on BM keep overloading her with ECAs that she isn't that great at! LOL
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Hey if calling the cops got
Hey if calling the cops got BM to back off and shut up for a bit, I'm all for it! Meth Mouth could have cared less, she viewed it as a challenge if we called the cops.
I'm glad your DH is starting to wise up as well!
As for SD, ehhh she might not be great at the ECA's but at least it keeps her off the pole or the pipe for now. lol.
Well BM went a bit crazy
Well BM went a bit crazy first after we called the cops which again actually helped us b/c the pick up/drop off was at her parent's house (totally biased and way out of the way for us that is why it was her go to punishment for DH standing up for himself). Anyways, the first drop off that he did there BM's dad came out and threatened DH right in front of SD. DH went and made a report about that also and SD texted him, "I'm mad at grandpa for telling you go to go kill yourself but I'm mad at you for calling the cops too" further proving the threat and forcing BM to come up with an actual neutral place - the police department - which we had already suggested and it was already documented that we had tried that.
However, when I made the initial post about that on here several people gave me hell for standing up to her and her antics and acted like we shouldn't have called the cops.
Thank you! He has gotten better in that aspect at least.
Ha, yeah, I don't know how long it will keep her off the pole or pipe seeing as she was soliciting herself online and BM took her phone away for like a week maybe. I'm sure she is right back at it.
HOLY HELL! Injury-free?
HOLY HELL! Injury-free? Amazing!
Right!!! I would have lost
Right!!! I would have lost some money if I had actually bet on this. I thought for sure it would only take a week or two before she had an undetectable severe injury again! LOL
Hey - enjoy this while it lasts
Because you know its ALWAYS going to be something...
Clove, you are so right!
Clove, you are so right! Especially with the holidays coming up and us following the CO to the T and not making any deals or trading times with BM. BM will lose it again soon. I'm guessing Easter. She is so desperate to berate DH. He only contacts her when he doesn't have ECA schedule. The last time he contacted her b/c he didn't have the busing schedule for field hockey in any of the e-mails/texts she sent she went whacko and called him a bad dad that couldn't keep a schedule and followed it with "I love you so so much" and a bunch of kissy face emojis. She is a real nut job!
Don't pack away
those crutches yet. Hopefully DuH is saving up money for SD's legal counsel. What about the MRSA?
With some of these HCGUBMs, the threat of a higher authority is the ONLY thing that will take them down a peg or two. They have ZERO respect for the father of their children so they will take a mile if given an inch. Gir is the same way.
Ha, BM keeps the crutches at
Ha, BM keeps the crutches at her house. She is ready for an over exaggerated injury at any given time. BM is just as bad about these injuries. Well a couple weekends ago she claimed that the MRSA was all healed up and just fine and she didn't have to take meds anymore. Then the following Monday SD started drama by picking at it and calling her daddeeee saying she was to sick to go to school b/c of it. BM ended up coming home and keeping her home and taking her back for more meds. BM claimed she was faking and just "overly tired"....of course trying to insuate that it was our fault she was overly tired b/c we just had her for the weekend. No, she was overly tired b/c of the 7am trip an hour and a half away for 3 field hockey games and then the double header in softball the following day - both things that BM insists that she does.
Yes, the threat of higher authority and making the reports and documenting her not following the order has been the only thing that has shut her up and kept her from continually harassing our home for the first time in 6 years!!!!! BM acts as if she is the only one with rights to SD and she can withhold visitation just b/c she is upset. That isn't how it works and isn't what is best for the child! I know you deal with the same kind of crazy. Sometimes I wish that SD would PAS out but I know that DH would be devastated by that :/