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How do you women deal with this for years??

SASX's picture

BM has lost not just her mind but her dignity, self respect, sanity, common sense and any semblance of humanity in the last few days. I understand that she is not happy that she is no longer receiving CS and now has to pay it. Instead of putting on her big girl panties one foot at a time and hauling them up, tying a knot and getting to work on life and budgeting she has gone into a drama mode that would cause Paris Hilton, Lindsey Lohan and the entire Kardashian clan to cringe and blush.

First came the attempts to cancel the childrens extra curricular activities.
Second came the name calling
Third came the 184 text messages to SO. Ranting, raving, threatening, cursing, berating. Hell there are not enough adjectives in the english language to describe that nights events.
Fourth came her demands that 'I' needed to pay her CS.
Fifth was her forbidding the kids to be anywhere near me.
Sixth was her showing up at my gated community at Mid-Night to ensure her kids were not at my house. No the gate guards did not let her in.

And at 7:30 this morning I was awakened by Hillsborough Counties finest pounding at my door doing a wellness check on two children, who were not even here! They are at their fathers house, as it is his week and they never spend the night at my house! She knows that!

Someone please tell me that she will eventually calm down and act human again. I am honestly way past the drama stage in my life!

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NancyL's picture

The chances of her calming down and acting human are pretty slim. If you are young, thin, beautiful and self supporting she will hate you even more.

SASX's picture

Older than her, about the same build, average in looks. So there at least is a chance she will calm down right?

Self supporting yes. Please notice that says self, aka I am not supporting SO, her or their skids not in my job description and I not only read the small print, I wrote it to ensure there are no hidden clauses!

Yme's picture

CHANGE??????? Dream on!
Sad but true! SO and the poor skids are prob catching even more H3ll~o than you are...so sad for them to see their own BM acting like this.....
Glad your SO got the reward in court that he did...and even happier that it was in Hillsborough Co! Smile Judges need to wake up and smell the coffee....Sounds like this one did! :-0
As to the HCSO snocking on your door, I hope that you got a report from them....or at the very least an "event number" where you can get documented info...because honey you may need it....This BM is mad and out of her mind.....Get statements from the Gate Guards where BM came last night and from the Dance Studio....you may need the documents (prob not admissable in court BUT you and SO's attorney may need the names and dates of persons involved incase. I they need to give "formal"/legal statements in the court the letter/statement will refresh their minds as to what happened...PRICELESS).....BM has it in her mind that YOU have SO living with you and "HER" kids are too She will claim that SO is lying to the court to "punish" her......Her WRATH is in no way over! She has more up her sleeve...be prepared...
Sorry to sound so negative BUT Ive been through this so many times....BM's (and I am one) can be bad to deal with (which I have NEVER been!)I learned LONG ago to document everything and to be on the watchout....sad sad sad....
As to having the SO pay for activities for my Bio kids...I would be ever so happy to have a SM who care enough about my bio kids as to help out by paying if their dad couldnt..I would be delighted! My skids BM's have never cared who paid (cause God KNOWS THEY wouldnt!!).....they have even said point blank that "SM can pay"......they dont give a sh$t about their Bio's and never have...sad but true....
Just be ready.....more will be coming....:(