Need a plan to assert myself again
Happy Fourth of July!
SS16 comes home tomorrow from his month long visit with BM. Since he's not in school, SO is less restrictive about his video game time. XBox is in the living room on the big screen.
One of the stepmoms on this site has a rule that the kids turn off the video games as soon as she comes home from work. I want to implement that same rule. SO gets really defensive every time I try to have a say regarding something his son does, even if it's something that affects me.
I've already suggested putting the XBox in SS' bedroom, but that's out because SO wants to be able to play the video games himself, and he wants to do this in the living room. Also, I don't think he wants SS hiding in his bedroom all day. (I don't mind, lol).
One argument I have planned is that if SO doesn't want to let me have a say on limiting the video games than the games shouldn't be placed in my jurisdiction, i.e., the common areas. That's just as much my living room as it is SO's.
I may be worrying about nothing, and SO may be fine with this. But the problem is if SO isn't fine with it, then there's tension and resentment and he acts like I'm some controlling bitch.
Instead of acting and then doing a post-mortem on ST like I usually do, I thought I'd put this out there in case anyone would like to add their two cents on how best to broach this subject.