My 'mini-wife' theory
I have a theory about mini wives whether it be SDs or SS--as in my case. I think a lot of times the dads like to feel like they are being fought over. Especially by their kids. They like being something to compete for. And I think a lot of dad's either tacitly or openly encourage their kids to be mini wives.
After two months of being out of step life I realized my ex probably enjoyed being caught in the middle between me and his son. He said it stressed him out and maybe it did on some level, but I mean when he feels caught in the middle, that means he's at the center of it all.
And since his daughters wouldn't speak to him and had essentially shunned him, my ex was probably flattered that his son adored him.
And those SD mini wives I read about. OMG. They're basically making their dad the center of their world which is something the dads know they won't get from a grown woman.
Why would these dads ever want to put a stop to their baby girls competing for them?
I realize I'm jaded. My ex really used the stepfamily dynamic against me so many times. Just didn't realize it until now.