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I watched the movie Stepmom last night.

Nymh's picture

I've never cried so much at a movie in my life with one exception - City of Angels. The entire time I'm watching it, I'm thinking, "If only it was that simple..." I noticed that they carried on in that movie in ways that wouldn't even be remotely possible in our real life situation.

I remember three times that they sat down in restaurants to speak to each other. How in the hell do they accomplish that? We can't get BM to be rational enough to even have a five-minute conversation, much less meet in a restaurant and expect her to be able to be coherent and rational enough to have a discussion and keep it about SS.

When Sarandon's character wanted to get a court order to keep Roberts away from her kids, all the Dad had to do was ask her not to, and she didn't. WTF? I WISH it was only that easy.

And every time they went to pick up or drop off the kids, they always went inside the others' house. Ok, if BM came inside our house, I'd expect her to bring a gun. And I wouldn't WANT to go inside her house for fear of coming out with the plague.

Sarandon's character managed to keep her cool almost all the time in front of her kids. Whenever she sat down to have a discussion with them about Roberts, she was very unbiased and rational. She always tried to point out the good things about her. She looked like it was difficult for her but she always managed to do it. Why can't BM do that? Not to mention she was also battling cancer, alone, and was a homemaker. If it's possible for her to cope and come out of it a better person, why can't BM do it?

Somewhere in the middle of the movie, I realized that I wasn't the one who needed to watch it. BM does. BM needs to watch it and see that hey, yeah, things are hard. Everyone knows that it's difficult. But she could be a bigger and better person if she would just lay down her guns and work with us a little instead of waging a constant war with SS in the middle. Unfortunately, I've come to the conclusion that she'll probably never come to that realization.

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Anonymous's picture

OMG! We laughed our heads off at that stupid movie, had to be a one star. I guess if you want an ex to be in your family dynamics then ok, BUT most do not. Totally fakey movie, but thats Hollyweird for you.

Imustbcrazy's picture

And not a biography, cause it would never happen in real life. DH and BM have met in a restaurant, 3 times in fact. And it actually went okay, and she does come in when she picks SS up, but all she does is comment on how she wishes she could afford a house like ours. Well, get a better job... stop spending your money on weed, there's a good start. Whatever. Movies are so frustrating sometimes. I have never seen that movie, never had the desire. It came out WAY before DH and I even met, but I despise my own Stepmother and didn't know which direction that movie takes, so I made it a point not to watch it.

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OldTimer's picture

You know it's going to be anything BUT reality! LOL...

Okay, I'm only poking fun at you, but seriously, I think we all should ban together, write a chapter and send it to the producer! LMAO...

Wink StepMom

Man has the intelligence to change his life,
Sometimes, he just fails to use it...

Nise's picture

I really like that movie! I think it is realistic for some…like my mom and step mom…they are not “friends” but I’d say they are close associates and VERY friendly with eachother! Definitely not MY reality though! Bur my favorite part of the movie was when Julia Roberts said “my biggest fear is that when I’m getting her dressed for her wedding day all she’ll be thinking is “I wish my mom was here”” and the Sarandon looks at her and says “My biggest fear is that she wont”. I thought that that moment showed the “core emotions” of what its like/what each side feels and why step-parenting is so hard.

But I can see what yall are saying…every sm/bm relationship is not cookies and punch and there has NEVER been an accurate representation of the “other side”!

Make a GREAT Day!

Nymh's picture

I've been missing you!!! Thank goodness you're still around Smile

*~So sayeth Nymh~*

Nise's picture

Hey Nymh!!

I lurk A LOT i just don't post much....still checkin in on you gals from time to time. Smile Make a GREAT Day!

Cruella's picture

That was the one with the poor sick green kid that was strapped to the bed and crying for her Mother. She was pretty sick. It kind of reminded me of my SD when she got back from her mothers.

Oh wait a minute that was the Exorcist.

I know that was mean. My coffee hasn't kicked in yet.

OldTimer's picture

Good one! (Am I rubbing off on people?) LMAO...

Wink StepMom

Man has the intelligence to change his life,
Sometimes, he just fails to use it...

Sebbie's picture

Lovers do not finally meet somewhere, they were with each other all along.

The biomom found out she was dying. If she had not found that out, do any of us really think either of the women, bm, sm would have put aside anything and worked for an amicable relationship for the kids??? Notttttttttt!!!! The same drama we all are very well aware of would have continued in the movie as well...that is reality.

Chocoholic's picture

Dh tells me that its one of BB's favorite movies! Which really doesn't make much sense but hey, thats BB for ya! It just solidifys the fact that BB can be smacked in the face with information.... watch it 100 times and still not get it.

On my end, our life with my ex and his girlfriend is similar.... we all really do get along and have even met for dinner a time or two!