Successful, huh?
The kids were already grown when they blended.
Hand them a 3 year old, two 7 year olds and a 9 year old and say "blend this"
They would drop to their knees and cry...
*evil laugh*

She does say that they learned to prioritize the marriage first which is key...absolutely KEY in step hell. Many of the issues lie with the spouse who consistently puts their child's wants over their spouse's wants.

YES, I agree with the marriage first part too!

I actually just read this article before I logged on here. I agree with putting each other first. DH and I have always had that philosophy. I certainly wouldn't say that it has made dealing with BM any more enjoyable. What it did do, is give me confidence that when BM is trying to shit talk me to DH, or belittle my place in SS's life, that DH has my back. It has created trust in that area. Same with MIL. I know that I always comes first, not only with the kids, but with his (STUPID BITCH) mom and BM as well. I would never doubt that.