OT/MIL asking to throw me a seperate shower
If you've read my previous blogs you know I have a controlling passive aggressive Mil. Since finding out I was pregnant and Dh putting his mom in her place when she steps out of line, I haven't really seen her too much. Welll, Dh let it slip that at our last ultrasound they told us it LOOKS like a girl. To give background here, Dh has a son that is 5 and his sister is having a boy in September so Mil has been jonesin' for a granddaughter. Sooo, now she's been on her best behavior and amped up the sweetness... Mostly I think because the last time she seen Dh and started being cray he told her "I'm just letting you know the doctors said it looks like were having a girl and if you don't respect mine and msg1986's boundaries you're not going to really be around our daughter!" ANYWAY, last week she called me and asked if she can throw me a seperate shower from the one my cousin is planning for me. I honestly think this is partly because of her controlling nature but also because she's never gotten over her divorce from Fil (they divoced when Dh was like 3ish-he's now 26)... my Mil is definately a golden uterus. So I think this mostly has to due with the fact that she knows Fil's wife and Fil's 2 daughters with Smil will be there because Dh likes his SM and we don't exclude them and Mil hates this. Mil has totally manipulated her daughter so much that Sil throws parties etc and will leave out Fil, Smil, and my 2 preteen Sil's (her baby sisters) just so her mom doesn't get mad.
So my question is, what do I do?? I don't want to play into my Mil's petty games but I also don't want drama at the baby shower at my house. Her reasoning behind this is so that she can invite her family that lives 3 hours away, but I was going to invite them anway. WTF??