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OT-MIL diagnosed with liver cancer? hmmm ahhh

herewegoagain's picture

Lovely, my DH just called me shaken that his mother called him to tell him that she has been diagnosed with liver cancer. Interesting thing is, that when our son was born, she claimed she had liver problems and has always made that "her issue" for people to run to her. Amazingly enough, the week my son was born, as she caused HELL in my house, my mother took her to the hospital, etc. and the dr's there stated "there was nothing wrong with her liver". Fast forward and here we are.

My poor DH seems very shaken up. I can imagine. At the same time, this witch has hurt my family so much, it is very difficult for me to say much to my DH. His birthday is tomorrow, we have a party planned for Sunday and these are the news we receive.

Anyone know of any good sites I can read to help my husband through this? I know she will make our lives even worse as she now uses this as an excuse to manipulate my husband. And yes, it sounds mean, but it's hard again because she has used her "liver issues" that were non-existant for years to manipulate him. And again, we have seen the "medication" she claimed to take, etc...and there was never anything for the liver, it was all for depression and crap...so it's just hard because she manipulated him for so long always claiming to be sick, that it's hard to let it go.

Anyway, if anyone has any advice on how to be there for my husband, even though I honestly could care less about that witch, please let me know.

Thanks!

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herewegoagain's picture

By the way, I don't even think she has insurance. Yep. While we lived in her backyard she kept complaining that 86USD (the cost of insurance here for her) was too much for her to pay. Mind you, her daughter who is 33 lives at home, doesn't pay a dime and works...and they have a house worth over 1million, but she was not giving that up for insurance...So, this is not good. Great. Just when we saved our money, I have a feeling here we go again. You know...and believe me, that I have no problem helping someone out, but we were ruined because of her being so evil and siding with the ex, etc. she screwed US out of plenty of money while living there...thus the reason we ended up in the hole!

asheeha's picture

maybe go to the doctor with her or encourage dh to go? then he/you can ask about it.

i'd say just be supportive, i don't have any real useful helps. sorry... Sad

let us know what you end up finding out. i'm sure you've gotten good at biting your tongue...just start chewing on it again.

LPS's picture

Not for nothing but I get your mil is sick but I think it was awfully selfish of her to ruin your DH birthday with her news. She couldn't have waited until Sunday night or even Monday to tell him.I would tell DH that even though his mom gave him this bad news, there is nothing that can be done about it now and to please enjoy his weekend and his birthday. Mil can wait until Monday to talk bout her plan of action.

You and DH are not responsible for her medical bills, she should apply for medicare (or which ever it is). On Monday when things are quiet then you and DH can sit down with mil and his siblings and form a plan of attack.

I know how cancer affects a family, I'm sorry, I hope all goes well.