Skids and their offspring
I need insight into this situation. I'm having trouble seeing things plainly.
SS25 broke up with his gf and needed a place to stay for a couple of weeks. Naturally that was - many weeks ago. Every weekend he has his son who is 6. DD10 plays with him until she wants to do something else or he gets too rude and argumentative for her to stand. For example like today he started calling her pets rude names and she asked him to stop because she didn't like it. So he started doing it more like he usually does when asked to stop doing something. She told him she is done playing and going to her room. Then he gets all mad and says she is mean and rude because she won't play with him. Next he goes upstairs to his dad and tells him she is being mean and won't play with him. Eventually he gets bored and starts knocking on her door. I can tell him him to stop but he he gives it a moment and starts it right back up again. He does the same thing when DH tells him to leave her alone too.
I told DH today that the new rule will be that whenever the kid goes outside or downstairs SS has to be with him.
SD and I are not his babysitters. I'm not going through having a bratty child around that has no consequences , constantly lies when things don't go their way, and casts others as the bad guy. I went through that with SD and not doing it ever again. I sure as he'll not letting anyone put DD through it.
DH said he will talk to SS.
SS might easily get defensive and angry. SS might not want to live here anymore!
I'm also getting upset about possibly getting exposed to COVID. I dont want to be paranoid. DH, me, and DD stay close to home. We visit on very rare occasions with one or two friends (always the same ones) and that's it. We don't gather in groups, keep outings to a minimum, etc. SS on the other hand goes and hangs out all night with different friends, a couple of times a week and tonight he is out on a date. I understand he's at that age, but there is a pandemic going on and he should be saving his money to get his own place.
I'm so tired of DH saying he talked with any of them. Talking is only good if a consequence follows. Otherwise words mean nothing.