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Soap Opera....

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I swear, exSO's life would make one hell of a Soap Opera or Lifetime Movie Network movie. Even though we split up, I still keep in contact with him. After all, were good friends before we even got together.

So he tells me today that he called the girls today to give them this big lecture that he was tired of being lied to and disrespected. He goes on to tell me that he told them that will no longer run the house and that there will be rules and he is going to follow through with punishment. Now a few days ago they were all wanting to move back and this and that. As soon as he told him what he expects and what is going to happen if they screw up...they pretty much denied any wrong doing, put the blame on him, pretty much going to tell him off or cuss at him if they feel like it. They ended the conversation and tried to call them back after a few hours hoping they cooled down. The daughter kept sending him to voicemail. He then texts her to ask if she was sending him to voicemail and if so, why. She replies that she doesn't have time for his crap.

Now here is the kicker (at least to me.) How much longer is he going to try with them? I realize there are lots of stepmothers and stepfathers that would say "never give up on your kids" or "what kind of parent would walk away from his kids." But seriously, how much more should he endure? BM doesn't make the girls go over and see him and has made it clear that they were better off with her and him just walking away from them. I find it pretty sad that she wants him to just walk away from the girls and she wants total responsibility for them. She has said many times that they didn't need him and she didn't want him have contact with them. BUT yet, she wants and expects a check every month.

Of course he wouldn't just give up on them and he will always continue to pay his support, but seriously, how much more can or should he endure? They don't want to come over, the BM doesn't want to come over. BM still dictates everything he can and can not do. BM will text or call exSO and just ream him a new ass and call him a horrible father but in the same breath ask for extra money for this and that. And sadly, his children do the exact same thing.

Now being a parent myself, I don't think I could handle being the "rejected parent." But is it ever right to just throw your hands in the air and just give up?