H rationalizes why he is allowed to call my kid names
He called my son a piece of shit last night to me and I've had all I will take from him.
I told him I NEVER called his kids names not once and that is not how you should communicate with a parent.
According to him: He has every right to call my kids' a piece of shit because they treat him terribly (my oldest son17 hasn't lived with us for 2 years and I haven't seen him in over a year.) AND according to him: The reason I have never called his kids names is because they were always 'wonderful' children who didn't do anything mean to me.
A couple weekends ago H squared up with my 14 y.o son and bruised his chest. He claimed my son was stealing $2.00 out of my purse and that was his excuse to put his hands on my kid.
I have an obligation to SD24 this coming week and once that's over I'm filing for divorce. My son told me last night he is miserable and he feels like H intentionally pushes him to go live with his biodad. I agree...he doesn't want my son around and anytime the kid tries to talk to me or express his opinion about anything (like a current event) H will jump in and needle him or nit pick what he says, or tell him what he thinks is wrong, or correct his grammar. Because if our opinions don't align perfectly with his we are 'stupid' or wrong. I can't take any more and I can clearly see that I am causing my son stress by staying with this asshole.
I need to make a list of all the things I want to keep and split and the thought is fucking overwhelming. I can't stand the thought of sharing a living space with this fucker for any amount of time.