How do I learn to disengage?
I guess my only opiton is to learn disengagement in my situation. I am trying to understand how to do that and to not let all these family problems get me down. The difficulties with my adult stephchildren and my husband leaves me feeling powerless and hopeless which results in some depression. My adult stepdaughter will not see me at all or let me come to her home (Never did anything wrong to her except right a letter saying I was hurt when she leaves my home without saying goodbye). She only invites DH and disincludes me, so I am left to just accept that. My husband feels I should be more supportive of him going on these visits without me, I do really try to be supportive but it also hurts alot to be left out all the time and that my husband accepts her rule that I am not be included and in that way I feel supports her behavior and so he just goes for visits whenever she asks and pretends everything fine. He says he cant make his kids talk to me or respect me & this is just how it is right now and I need to accept it. I am struggling to accept this situation so that is why I am wondering how to learn to disingengage and not let this get to my heart and spirit so much. Any ideas would be appreciated.