The Most Wonderful Time of the Year. No! I mean Confusing Time of the Year.
The holidays bring up a whole lot of things to deal with for step mothers and families. Just wondering how others have learned to cope with this complicated and confusing time of year.
How does the time around the holidays get spent trying to navigate this messy situation?
Currently in my situation my husbands adult kids will not see me. I am not welcome at their home so my husband is always torn how and where to be for the holidays. He doesn’t seem to want to do nothing about the situation and says he is stuck in the middle not wanting to take sides either way. It currently seems like this now works best for everyone that they all spend time together without me, all his visits now are alone and I just stay on the sidelines and don’t interfere in any of it because I’m not welcome. Makes me sad but it’s the reality of my current situation and does not look like it will ever change.
The holidays are the worse and I currently feel lost how to deal and cope this time of the year. Usually in the past we pick out gifts together to give to his kids, grandkids. But this year they have alienated me so much I wonder if I should just stay out of it all completely. Let him do whatever he wants as far as gifts etc. and I just go along with it all. Just shut up and let him do what he wants. Maybe it’s easier that way? Also trying to figure out where the holidays should be spent. I know he wants to see his family around the holidays but trying to figure that out based on the fact they won’t see me. I don’t have family I can spend holidays with so I am left alone when/if he spends his holidays with his kids without me.
Very tough situation. My heart is broken as this is not how I hoped it would be but now am trying to learn to accept this is the way it is. His kids dislike me, he doesn’t want to do anything about their behavior toward me as he does not want to upset them in any way so I’m left standing on the sidelines confused how to deal and cope.
Wondering how others in similar step family dramas deal with the holidays?
Thank you in advance for any input.