It's been months since I have posted. I don't know how I've made it through without ST
I was looking back at my previous blogs and noticed that I haven't posted since the beginning of October! I've been lurking around though. I don't know how I'm still sane without venting here on ST!
I have so much pent up irritation regarding SD and even now with my DH. DH is usually not someone I would normally bitch about, but even he is irritating me! Quite a bit has happened over the months. I am still mostly disengaged and I must say it has helped. I used to worry so much about everything regarding SD12, but since I have backed off and let DH handle it, I am less stressed out. SD12 still rarely comes out of her room. She seriously acts like I'm some evil step monster who beats her and treats her like cinderella. Oh well. I know the truth.
SD is in 7th grade and will (maybe) be playing soccer at school. We were all sitting on the couch and her and DH were talking about soccer and SD basically whispered something about her games and the times of the games. Since I am the one who picks her up from school, I have a feeling I will be the one taking her to these future games. She said something about them and their times to DH and DH said "we will have to figure it out" and I'm sitting there thinking "No DH, I will have to figure it out because I will probably be her taxi" Normally I wouldn't mind doing this, but since I am the taxi around here, I should be included in a conversation regarding MY time. But I will handle that when the time comes
Something else that really irritates me is SD and her homework. She is really struggling to keep her grades above a C. On the nights when she has English or Social Studies homework, she doesn't ask me for help when I am the one who is much better at those subjects than DH. SD12 will wait until DH gets home from work, which can sometimes not be until 8PM. I have even asked her many times if she has homework and if she needs/wants help. She always says no and she doesn't need help, but will ask DH when he gets home. I don't care that she would rather have DH help, what I care about is the fact that she is taking up so much of DH's time in the evenings that he isn't able to spend any time with our two children-DD8 and DS5. AND usually DH will call me into SD's room to ask my opinion on the English homework. He has gotten much better about explaining what to do to SD and then leaving her at it instead of sitting and watching/guiding her while she does it.
There is so much more for me to vent about, but thats enough for now