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My rant as a BM today

Lalena75's picture

Exh filed for cs modification in Aug. hearing was today with the state guy since I use CSE. State guy asks why ex wants to mod he tells him cause he was laid of the good job almost 2 years ago but he got another job AFTER all his unemployment ran out. Guy tells him he should of modified then. Ex says he was "sacred to" (wtf) Then then he says quit his current job 2 weeks ago because "My employer and I had a difference of opinion" state guy says oh okay well we can abdicate your cs back to the date you filed. Signed and done WTF just happened here? The CSE is supposed to help make sure kids get the cs and they just decided it's okay to QUIT a job and be a deadbeat? I argued we have a judicial CO for cs, he quit his job voluntarily and I'm on crutches without work for 3 weeks sole custody and exh can just opt out of cs just like that!? Apparently. I'm filing something to get this changed somehow this is bullshit. He is working cash under the table and I can't prove it. I also have an order for 50% of stuff for the kids (medical, sports, school) I sent out recent bills stacking up the next set. State told me I didn't need a lawyer for this bull guess I'm getting one and going to a judge.

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step off already's picture

I feel for you.

My DH has sole custody of SS and BM pays nothing. She only works 5 hours a week (by choice) to ensure she will never have to pay. When they were married she made $40k a year.

Boo on deadbeat parents!!!!

kathc's picture

I love how when it's a ncp FATHER who is only working part time because he can't find a full time job, he's ordered to pay based on what he COULD make full time...but when BM refuses to work more than part time they don't use what she COULD be making in computing CS.

overworkedmom's picture

I am dealing with my exH trying to get his CS lowered again too. It sucks. I am sorry.