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stepmasochist's picture

BM has yet to pay CS though she's been ordered. The AG's office seems to be dragging its feet. I log on today using the handy dandy case number website BS to view the status of the case only to find, there isn't one really. I'm pissed. Is this message OK?
To be sent via their stupid little form thing on the website:

It's been over a month since I filed with the AG's office and got a response affirming the application had been received in a letter dated Sept. 5. It's been since July 3 that my case went to court and she was ordered to pay $400 each month with the first monthly payment due Aug. 1. Where are my payments and what is the holdup? I have provided the information of where you can find the order. As of now, she is $1200 is arrears. When it was the other way around, my wages were garnished in less than two weeks. I log on here a month later and it's still being assessed?!?! If you need me to submit certified copies of the court order to your office, let me know. But they are available at the office of the district clerk for (blank) Judicial District in (blank) County located in (blank). Telephone number (blank) the district clerk who is (blankity blank), but if the file has been properly maintained, you should already know that. I will expect payment within the next two weeks or I will be forced to contact my state legislators and the editors of every major newspaper in the state and probably several minor ones concerning the bias of this office against custodial fathers.

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SanAntonioSoccerMom's picture

It is a statistical fact that NCP mothers have a higher % rate of nonpayment than their male counterparts. The last figures I saw were something like 68% of men pay their support while less than 50% of women do. It was a huge disparity.

stepmasochist's picture

I can totally see that. I wonder if more custodial moms are on government aid than custodial dads. I honestly think they prioritize based on whether or not the recipent is receiving welfare. They drag their feet until they drag you to the poor house.

SanAntonioSoccerMom's picture

Yes that is a factor. The CSE attorney actually told my husband that he did not need money from his ex and he should just move on. Had the roles been reversed my husband would have paid thousands to her every month. She would have gotten more a month in CS than what she would have made being employed full time.

stepmasochist's picture

That's exactly what my husband was paying her, more than she could make working full-time.

It just frustrates me that now that she's ordered to pay, the kids come back from her visitation and she's lavished them with expensive BS. ugh.

StickAFork's picture

Don't send this!!

Sorry, but it's pushy and rude.

And, hey...just FYI: I'm owed something like 100 grand and haven't received a penny in...wait, what year is this??

Stand in line and be PATIENT.

stepmasochist's picture

BM is employed. They have all of the information. When she filed for CS, she got it almost instantly. Perhaps I will send a toned down email minus the threats and just follow through with my threats in two weeks anyway. I've gotten a good response from my state senator's office in the past and as an editor for a newspaper, I know how to get my story out there when it comes to government BS and I won't even have to use my own paper. AND I'll forward copies of all my correspondence to the AG's office.

I can understand those who are owed much more might have self-employed, unemployed or underemployed non-custodial parents their dealing with or maybe they can't even find them. But she has a job, we know this. They know this. She agreed to pay. So no, I won't stand in line and be patient. There isn't a line. I'm at the frikkin' front. Everything is in complete order except for the idiots at the AG's office. It has to be bias. I'm fed up with the double standard. It's not like we haven't already had custody of the kids for going on five years and for four, she wasn't made to pay a dime. We didn't press it. Now that it's on paper ... this is just complete crap. We've given them plenty of time, as we know from a fact how long of a turnaround it took for DH's wages to be garnished in the SAME STATE and for four times as much. Screw them. The government is accountable to taxpayers for it's service or lack thereof and I will call them out, loud and clear, if they don't pull their head out, pronto.

SanAntonioSoccerMom's picture

CSE offices work at the pace of a tortoise, and their recovery rate is idiotic. My husband has never seen a penny of CS in 18 years. Ever. His divorce state's recovery rate is like 18% which is laughable. It was 11% at it's lowest when I contacted the state attorney general's office. That is the only time I ever got his case worker to do a thing.

You will be lucky to get anything in the next 6 months. A way to speed the process up is to file contempt on her, but that costs you and your husband $$$$.

stepmasochist's picture

Also, what you might not get is, it would be one thing if I logged onto the CS website and saw that they have acknowledged that she owes the money. The account shows what a district court has in fact ordered more than three months ago and their ironing out how their going to collect it or distribute it or what-the-crap-ever. But no, it's "being assessed" wth is there to assess? The AG's office is not going to overule a judge of the state over the assessment. I don't understand what they've been doing. There is nothing for them to assess. They have all the information they need. All they have to do is their WAAAAYYYY overcompensated lackey jobs in a timely fashion.

Thanks for reading my vent. Smile

stepmasochist's picture

I'm a bit familiar with how slow they work on some things, but this should be cut and dried. Maybe I'll get on some foodstamps and that'll hurry 'em along.

When DH got custody, it took them FOREVER to stop his CS obligation. His boss was cool and just stopped garnishing his wages. So it accrued, we went to court to get it officially ordered he doesn't owe it, but BM was getting welfare (for kids she only had two weekends a month :O ) so they didn't want to take that and by the time we got it off the books it was up to like $40,000. BM actually cried when the court ruled we didn't owe it. Like she thought she was going to get that or deserved it or something. Puh-leaze. I had the biggest smile on my face and I didn't try to hide it. I think she may have even seen me do a slight little victory dance outside the courtroom.

Took the AG's office another five or six months to actually get it off the books so she didn't get our tax refund. Luckily, we're not really in a recovery situation. We know where she is, we know where she works. We know we can take her DL if it comes down to it. I do like the contempt idea though. Our lawyer might be able to get her to have to pay the cost of filing it.

SanAntonioSoccerMom's picture

My husband got custody his kids in 1995. He is still wait for "his check".

stepmasochist's picture

But does BM have a job and is she court ordered to pay? Do you know her location and her employer?

Just wondering.