How to win at life...
My MIL is a sweet old lady (76) and looking at her, you wouldn't think her home life is the way it is. My SIL is 35 and still lives with MIL, in the gross basement where she hordes everything she finds at garage sales in. SIL doesn't have a job and hasn't had one in 15 years. I believe she was fired for stealing office supplies at her last job or something to that effect. She smokes in the house while MIL is on oxygen and literally anyone and everyone who comes out of that house smells terrible, is covered in animal hair and almost tripped over 20 things on the way out. SIL is generally pretty gross looking. She uses MIL's money to buy clothes at goodwill so she's always in scrubs and Slayer T-Shirts that look really bad. She also doesn't take care of herself very well so she always smells like B.O and her face is all zitty.
As if this was bad enough. My MIL, who is still working as a nurse to support her scummy daughter, just lets this happen. SO gets so angry about it and neither of us can believe MIL just lets this go. SIL has totaled 4 of MIL's cars in the last 3 years and MIL STILL tried to keep her insured but the insurance company said no. SIL borrows the cars to drive her friends around because she somehow found a crew of 35-40 year olds that also don't work or own cars.
She also has this child mentality, like "when I grow up, I'll do all of these things." She recently found out I was 5 years younger than her and was in pure shock. I think it's because I have a job, a house, a family and you know, do adult things.
Recently SIL found herself a 65 year old boyfriend who works as a handyman and moved him right into her hording basement. He isn't allowed to drive due to "mental issues," but he recently bought a old taxi that doesn't work and had it towed onto MIL's lawn. It's like a checklist for how to be a redneck!!
The crazy thing is, MIL is well put together, with her pretty old lady clothes and coordinated jewelry. She's a wonderful grandma to the skids and it wonderful in social situations. She's completely "with it" but just lets her daughter be a parasite. It's infuriating!! SO gets stressed beyond belief about this situation because Mom is working herself to death when she should be retired.
Meanwhile, the house isn't paid off and if mom can't work anymore what happens? SIL, who has been warned of this forgone conclusion thinks she'll just get a house I guess?! Her and old boy are going to show on our doorstep, hopefully we'll smell them coming and lock the doors!