:sick: Hoping & praying this nonsense doesn't go on for 18 years!

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Hey! So I kinda new to this whole blogging thing. I have been dealing with drama for 4+ years now.Im sure many of you have been going thru this hell for a much longer time. It puts a huge strain on my relationship with my boyfriend. He has a daughter that will be 4 in april. & no I was not the MISTRESS. BM was pregnant when my boyfriend and I met & she was the one who left for another man(boy)only two months into their marriage. I absolutely adore my "stepdaughter" & my boyfriend. What makes you stay and put up with the nonsense? Does it get easier or better?? Everytime I think things are going good & the nonsense has finally stopped i get slapped in the face with something else. It is literally breaking me down.I love my boyfriend and the little with all my heart and by no means do I want to walk out on either one. It breaks my heart to see this little girl going thru all of this. Friends tell me I am crazy to put up with the stuff I do and that no one else would put up with BMs antics but after reading thru some of yalls posts I see that I am not the only one nor do i have it the worst. So i am hoping this site will help relieve a little stress and make it easier and easier.

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Sorry Karma, I'm speaking

Sorry Karma, I'm speaking from MY experience.. it doesn't get easier, it never ends there will be down time in between the drama when things will be great, but there will ALWAYS be some shit that steals your joy away. It's extremely draining and what keeps ME in my marriage is all the time I've invested in it. All the energy I've invested and all the love I feel for my DH. He is a good man, a hard worker, a kind soul. It is unfortunate that he got mixed up with such a basket case and I'd feel awful if I walked out on him because of his bad choice 20 years ago. I guess what works for me is TRYING to disengage as much as I can. Although I will admit it doesn't work for long, the mother in me takes over and I do thing son instinct. Perfect example, I promised myself I wouldn't wake up SS18 for school anymore. BUt this morning when I looked at the alarm clock and saw that I heard no movement coming from his room, I knew he'd miss the bus if I didn't wake him, so I woke him up.
It's a personal choice we make to stay in these relationships, and I hope yours gets easier.

Good Luck.

^^^^This^^^^

Thanks Unfreakingreal, altho

Thanks Unfreakingreal, altho i wish it was a different answer. It is the truth. I think one of the main reasons i stay is for the little. I am completely attached and love her to death. & like you said i don't want to walk out on him & her for a decision he made when he was very young. I am 23 & he is 24. He was 19 when they got married & she was 16. As far an disengaging myself. I realllly wish i could. But for some reason i can't. The little is attached to my hip and always has been. Its such a big part of our life. & the messier it gets the more time it consumes.

Then hang on to your sanity

Then hang on to your sanity by venting here. I found that THIS site is the reason I am still married. Seriously, I am able to just put it out there, get it off my chest, and go home with a clear head and less anger. I wish you much luck.

a complete stranger actually

a complete stranger actually introduced me to this site so i figured why not let's give it a go..There are times that I really want to just hang it up. life would be so much easier without the nonsense. Less stress. I just started Nursing School & actually just passed my first class whoo. my life is full of stress right now & i def don't need her craziness. I want this to work so I will try my hardest to make it.. all while playing by the rules of the court which BM is terrible at doing. So Im wondering how many times she will get to manipulate the court system, us & everyone else before it comes back to bite her on the behind. :?

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