Close To Callin It Quits
Welp, I am young, smart and capable of independence. If I wasn't, my life as a stepmom might be easier to stomach.
My DH has been guilted and manipulated by the ex yet again. SS18 has been having mental issues (breakdowns, rage etc caused by his psycho mother, no doubt) and his counselor has recommended DH make more of an effort to have SS18 feel welcome in our home. SS has never apologized to me for the hateful things he has said. In fact, he has doubled down in his choice of pretending I don’t exist when our paths cross. Oh but it is excusable! His mother made him this way! Boo hoo.
DH either doesn’t notice this disrespect or doesn’t know how to address it, so he ignores it. In his words, “i’m the adult. Why do I left SS18 and SD13 get to me?” And now I have to further open my home up to this nonsense? Oh and as a sweet bonus, we get sD13 an extra day too.
Being around skids gives me a stomach ache of anxiety. Do I really want that for decades?
We go to see a counselor in about a week.
I have told DH that he either figures out how to enforce very basic boundaries with his f-ed up kids or I leave. I explained to him that this will get WORSE with time, not better.
I do not want DS to grow up watching me get treated like I have no value and then watch DH reiterate that by doing nothing.
Being a stepparent is such a crap gig.