HELP & ADVISE PLZ - Go to school or get a job, if not the door is over there.
Needing some advise and feedback from anyone that has been in this position. I have an SS18 who has just finished his final year of highschool. During this last year DH was pushing SS18 to decide what he wanted to do once he finished school as there was no way we are having him staying at home all day playing computer games. It’s either full time work or full time schooling to get a degree of some sort.
Quick background. SS18 has always hated school, never did any homework or just did the bare minimum so he could just pass. He didn’t study for his final school exams so I’m expecting a very low score to come. Playing computer games 24/7 was more important that getting an education.
Going back a few months ago, SS18 came up to DH and I and said that he wanted to get into the Airforce. DH and I had a big sigh of relief thinking that this kid is now getting his act together. He sat 2 interviews and was waiting for his appointment date to sit his last interview and physical before finding out if he has been excepted in.
Last night SS18 told DH that the job he was applying for in the Airforce is not available therefore he will not be doing his final interview. Now, I don’t know anything about the Defence Force and what’s involved but I don’t completely believe this story either.
So now we have a 18 year old who has no idea what he wants to do in life other than playing computer games. He will most likely not get a good enough exam result to get into any decent course even though we both told him he may need something to fall back on if the Airforce doesn’t work out.
I’m starting to feel sick to the stomach thinking that I’m am going to have an 18 year old SS still living with us at 30, still playing games 24/7 in his room, not doing any chores, being a disrespectful asshole and living off daddy and SM.
I read a few sites which mention to give him a deadline to get a full time job or enrol into college course otherwise show him the door. Even though DH has said this exact same thing to SS18 in the past, I don’t think he would actually follow through with kicking him out if push came to shove because SS18 has already been kicked out of BM house twice for not following rules, being an ass to his brothers and gaming all the time, so DH doesn’t want to come off as an uncaring parent like BM.
Any ideas on how to deal with this, I am at a total loss??