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SO wants full custody of his 3yr old daughter.

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We have been to court a several times now and finally have papers that spell out everything.. Yet BM still thinks she is above the CO. Ugh. it makes me want to pull my hair out. I have spent many sleepless nights over the crap this one pulls. I know no one on here knows half of it but one day ill explain. I do not have the time nor energy at this point in my life to let her bs bother me. I absolutely adore my SD3. She is my mini me and is stuck to myside. Smile we love having her and after we straighten out some attiude she is a joy to be around. Bm has called us numerous time telling us how out of control she is, she gets into everything and she doesn't know how to handle her. plus she has another daughter that is 2 so its hard to have both of them. Really?!?! Not the little angel thats at my house. Granted she is not always perfect and has an "im the boss" attitude (yes, she's 3) when she gets to our house. But that doesn't fly and she knows it. It is yes ma'am, no sir under our roof. If BM can't handle the child at 3 what in the world is she going to do at 16.. We will have a hellian on our hands. She walks all over everyone at her BMs. BM also calls to tell us how she is too expensive..Um Excuse me.. not as expensive as you hubby's new nissan on crome 24's with a system. Do you really need a system with two young children riding in the backseat? SO has told her well if you can't handle her and shes just too damn expensive send her my way. We will be glad to provide for her. SOs last straw was when she yet again violated the CO and claims SD3 on her taxes when it was his year to claim. He WANTS full custoday & he WANTS it now. I will be more than happy with this but everyone keeps saying it will never happen because we are not married.I am not some chick he picked up on the corner i have been in this baby's life since before she was born. This mess has been apart of my life this long I dont plan on leaving anytime soon. Too much money & time invested. There is crazy amount of stuff showing how unstable her home life is at BMs. I was just wondering if anyone had any thought on him being refused full custody JUST because we are not married?

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& i know how difficult it is for a father to recieve full custody but we are prepared to fight for this little one.

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He is def on board with the traditional parenting methods. & PAS is already in full swing. The little one comes to our house & tells us everything her mommy has told her like "i am not her mom and she doesn't have to listen to me." SO was furious and nipped that in the butt with a quickness. Smile

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We live in FL. But we have been before the judge and constantly show that she doesn't adhere to the CO and our lawyer keeps telling us it takes time for them to grant custody. I have everything documented. SO is a little more strict than i am and we have talked about the way a child should and needs to be raised. Rules, consequences and stability. He was brought up in a military family and my father was an police officer so neither one of us put up with disrespect or nonsense & as for BM and him feeling guilty she has put him thru so much. She has gone as far as keeping SD3 away from him until she was 9 months old as well as filing false police and DCF reports, sending police officers to our house to check on her wellfare. SD3 & I were sitting on the couch playing barbies when an officer walked into my house. He looked at me & laughed. He was like you are kidding me right?? I was like no sir. I am incredibly sorry you had to take the time to come out here. He was not very happy & informed us that if she calls again he will be pressing charges for filing false police reports. This wasn't the first time. Denying visitation on several occasions. She has pulled every trick in the book plus some. He is finally ready to put a nail in her. He has dealt with a lot..well WE have dealt with a lot. I stand behind him in every decision he makes. This little girl is incredibly smart and knows more than many people give her credit for. I really hope BM would never make her a mini monster. But i know its a very real possibility.