"I'm just the girlfriend now"!
Hello everybody.I am soooo frusterated!I first want to say I am not married.I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a year and a half.I have been with him since the beginning of his divorce.His ex wife is a piece of work.Like I read in other blogs,She asked for the divorce.He gives her one.He is a wonderfullll father!!He is also my best friend.I have been with him through everything.I first want to say there was a lot going on last year as far as my insecurites from past relationships and the stress with him.We got through it and are moving ahead.His son who is 16 lives with us.We have his 8 yr old daughter,the middle child who is 14 doesn't come around.She does not like me nor her dad her grandparents etc.etc.The kids mother also loves them very much.But she has never really participated in sports and extracarricular activities.When the kids are with us we do everyting as a family.The son has referred to me as his stepmom.Last year I took the 8 yr old out to play softball.Every since then she wanted to play.The day of sign ups my boyfriend called and asked how much it costs.I told him.There was also a 25.00 fee for the raffle tickets.I said to my boyfriend I'll get rid of those quick!Excited to do it and get her started he said "no her mom will do it"!I said I'll do it.My feelings were really hurt because literally she has no interest in sports and never did.Even with her son from her first marriage.I have been to most of my boyfriends sons games football and basketball.And brought softball to the table.He said my feelings shouldn't be hurt as the conversion escalated into an arguement.I said I wanted to play a part in it since I taught her and thus far me and him have paid for everything when it comes to these things.Later when the topic came up I began crying and explained to him I look at them like their my stepkids.He said we're not married.I said I know but your son calls me his stepmom and the 8 yr old.Not only that they call my mom grandma.My boyfriend calls my sister "sis"His He has a ringtone when my mom calls that gives out a siren that says "IT'S THE MOTHER IN LAW'LOL.So I said ok.Not only that he sees my aunt in the store the other day and says "Hey Aunt Karen"!?????So I let all of them know not to use those titles with him anymore.When I told him I talked to them about it he was furious!I said why are you so mad?He said I shouldn't of said anything to him.I think it was a bit contradicting.All and all I'M very confused and hurt.Why the sudden change???PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME.I WANT YOUR OPINION.ANY SUGGESTIONS ON HOW I SHOULD HANDLE THIS?