I think the guilt parenting might finally end
Since DH has agreed to end the guilt parenting and stop centering our lives around SD a couple weeks ago hes actually been following through and doing a pretty good job with it. Ironically, now that hes stopped all the evidence keeps getting thrown in his face that theres no reason to be feeling sorry for her and spoiling her.
Theres more details in other blogs, but in short - MIL insists shes such a deprived child and that's why she acts the way she does. Spent 3x as much on her on her birthday last month as any other grandkid and expected that the bday party she insists on throwing her every year (that doesnt happen for any other grandkid) not be impeded on in anyway by us having a new baby a few days before.
So today my mom gave SD her bday card with cash in it to go shopping. Instead of saying thank you she starts talking about how she has two houses so she gets soo many presents and bragging about the present BM got her. Did she even mention the presents DH rushed out to get her that were exactly what she said she wanted and much nicer than what BM got? Nope. Did she mention the expensive gift MIL got her? Nope. A few takeaways:
1. What BM does will always be better than anything from any of us
2. The kid acts like a spoiled brat because she IS spoiled and gets so much stuff that it's all meaningless to her
3. Shes well aware that she gets twice as much stuff as the other kids and doesnt see herself as deprived either like he and MIL kept insisting she does