Help seeing the other side, please
I talked to DH about YSS breaking the no electronics in the room rule now with a new computer. That it is fine if we change/rescind the rule but that is our decision. I said I wanted to talk to him about it anyway since the older two will be getting laptops for college soon.
He agreed and he also agreed that YSS broke the rule before we changed it and did not ask. And he agreed that YSSs extra electronics go away since he broke the rule and he can have them back on two weeks (about the time one of the older two will have a laptop). That turns out to be only three weekend days and maybe a night or two (since YSS is barely here due to DHs travel and his own sports stuff).
YSS copped an attitude right away so it didn’t go smoothly for him. (Oh, and when we walked in the room he had a brand new monitor that wasn’t here yesterday.) I didn’t yell or swear or say anything mean and neither did DH but I was direct (when DH was starting to hem and haw) and didn’t let a “but can’t we discuss it” conversation happen (told him the time to discuss it would have been before he did it, not after). He was made to pack it all up and hand it over.
Later he was crying and DH went to console him. DH says he didn’t back down and reiterated what was said, but from snippets it seems YSS accused him of being my pawn.
And the fun part of if DH was mad at me then for “making” him enforce the rule and he knows I “have fun” punishing the skids. First, enforcing the rule with no other repercussions is not punishment in my book. And, no. I don’t have fun. This is most definitely not a part of my life I would call fun.
Just now DH told me that YSS is in his room and sad and it would be a good time for me to go in and mend bridges. Here’s the dilemma: I don’t know what bridge needs to be rebuilt. I get that he’s upset and frustrated and mad, probably mostly at me.
I am willing to concede that I could have a blind spot and a bridge has to be mended. But since it’s a blind spot I don’t see it. Any advice or explanation would be appreciated. Im not gonna make a move until I see if I’m missing something. Any conversation right now would be pointless.