According to DH, I'm not interested in kids.
DH: You talk all the time about the bios you want us to have.
DH: But you seem wholly uninterested in kids.
Me: how so?
DH: well you weren't very enthusiastic on Saturday when we had 14 kids at the house.
(4 Skids invited friends over without DH asking me, and I needed to work so did not come home until late)
Me: do I seem uninterested in my Dd16? (Who was not there)
Me: so really you mean I'm uninterested in other people's kids
DH: (long pause) yeah I guess
Me: how I am with my DD is best predictor of how I'll be with our future bios. How I am with your kids is a good predictor of how I'd be with any future stepkids.
So mad bc I feel like DH is trying to use my (relative) lack of interest in his kids and strangers kids as an excuse not to have bios. For the record, I am not an earth mother type. That said, I think I am a darn good mom to my DD. But no, I don't always enjoy a small army of other people's kids at my house. DH, he loves it. But he's also a "one big family" kind of guy.