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"Acts of Kindness in Divorce" courtesy of HuffPo

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Submitted by isthisforme123 on Thu, 05/15/2014 - 2:52pm

I'll admit it, sometimes I cheat on Steptalk and read the Divorce section in HuffPo. This article really caught my eye. While I think the BM who wrote it was well-intentioned, and maybe it does work for her and her ex, the list here of "acts of kindness" you can do for your ex is just classic meddling BM behavior. For your entertainment, here they are:

1. Send a birthday cake to your ex's with your kids on his or her birthday

2. Send him or her an e-mail with a compliment-anything that he or she does well

3. Help him or her find a new job (if they are looking) by introducing him to some of your Linkedin connections

4. Email him or her a Groupon from a place you know he/she likes

5. Send him/her a card if he/she gets promoted

6. Give him or her free upgrades to first class if they are going on a trip with your kids

7. Make him a photo album filled with baby pictures of your kids (if he doesn't have many)

:jawdrop:

Comments

tabby yabba do's picture

Submitted by tabby yabba do on Thu, 05/15/2014 - 2:55pm

Wtf, is there *no* common sense left in the world today? Are people so mf-ing open-minded that their brains have fallen out?

Smh and looking for a drink now.

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Submitted by isthisforme123 on Thu, 05/15/2014 - 2:58pm

LOL, I think the kindest thing you can do for your ex is be a decent parent to your kid and MOVE ON.

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Submitted by Jsmom on Thu, 05/15/2014 - 3:03pm

Can we say "No Boundaries"....Dear lord...

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Submitted by overworkedmom on Thu, 05/15/2014 - 3:20pm

The most I do is let the kids pick out something small for their dad on Father's Day, his birthday and Christmas. I am talking $20 max, but they like being able to give a present to their dad. They are too young right now to do that on their own.

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Submitted by Gabriels Mom on Thu, 05/15/2014 - 3:26pm

I sent BM a box of elephant poo for her Bday to her job does that count as giving a gift?

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Submitted by Gabriels Mom on Thu, 05/15/2014 - 3:38pm

It was the best 35.00 I ever spent. My only regret is I wasn't there to watch her open it.

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Submitted by Gabriels Mom on Thu, 05/15/2014 - 3:48pm

She ranted for weeks about it on FB and her blog. She accused DH but his reaction was genuine when he said no because not only did he not do it, he didn't know. He told me about it and I lost it. I laughed so hard I couldn't breathe.

I intend to do it again. For her anniversary...she'll be expecting something from her DH....This time I think I will send gorilla poo...I'm so evil

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Submitted by Gabriels Mom on Thu, 05/15/2014 - 4:02pm

LOL Yes! this is it! I love this site. Seriously, you will pee yourself when she gets it.

DH said to me "of course you know how to send poo to people. Only you Babe."

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Submitted by Gabriels Mom on Thu, 05/15/2014 - 4:04pm

IKR? This literally has to be the best gift ever and it's completely anonymous. One day I will tell her I'm sending her poo but for now I will do it and enjoy her rants about it...

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Submitted by dragonsfyre on Thu, 05/15/2014 - 3:55pm

"If you think about it, life is hard. People always say you can depend on family the most. Isn't your ex sort of always going to be part of your family?"

:barf:

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Submitted by weekendwidow on Thu, 05/15/2014 - 4:09pm

If the ex had been this thoughtful and considerate before the divorce, maybe there wouldn't have been a divorce in the first place. Duh!

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Submitted by witch.hazel on Tue, 03/13/2018 - 12:39pm

These are terrible suggestions. It would definitely send out the WRONG message to everyone involved. Maybe the job help one- if you share kids whether together or apart, you don't want to be the only one working!