Am I wrong??
Hello I’m new to all of this and I mean ALL of this.Im 22 been with my boyfriend for about four years he never told me he had a son then I found out months later his son is 3 then months later he had went to jail and his mother slipped up and said he had a daughter too!!I felt..boy I can’t even explain I was just like wow and obviously pissed.so his daughter is 3 as well two different moms.he apologized when confronted and at first I felt okay with his kids but he started to treat me like I was an outsider like when we’d fight half the time over stuff he does he’d snatch his son from away from me like I was a monster or something he just made me look like a bad guy when it was always him he’d always be like my son is here he’ll disrespect me in front of them and when I get mad and explode you wanna act like I’m the monster and hide your kids and stuff? It pissed me off and made me wanna distance myself ..forward years later arguing would continue over his inconsistency’s with loyalty and I remember one argument he told me out of no where “my son is gonna live with me and you’ll be on the back burner” which obviously was like wow I understand your kids come first but it’s the way he says things like I’m just crap I’ve bailed dude out before I’ve helped so much so it hurt he said that .He uses his kids against me it seems so again distanced myself some more then in a completely different argument (idk why he always brings his kids into an argument that has nothing to do with them) but he said “I told him not to talk to you “ so again I distanced myself and stopped doing things or even acknowledge they were around when they’d come over (he doesn’t really see his daughter due to baby momma drama) I just felt like if you’re going to make me out to be this demon female and actually tell your kids to not talk to me then I’ll just stay away.so now he’s like “You don’t even acknowledge them or say hi or do anything I want someone who loves my kids and this and that” but it’s like HE CREATED THIS !!!you isolated me and made me look bad so I keep my distance there was even a time we were arguing about something petty and his son was like if she makes you mad why she still in your house ?” (We live together and I was payin the bills by myself for months ) but it pissed me off kid or not but he obviously picked up on his dads ways of being disrespectful because sometimes if usually just leave to get away from the arguing and disrespect it was just out of line to me for a child to say that.I’ve also been disrespected by both mothers so it made me just feel resentful even more.another thing he used to get mad over is being I was the only one working and handling bills and food he seen id get irritated trying to feed him a grown ass man and a child I have no obligation too mind you I’m only 22 I’m not making very much and had no kids myself he’d say I’d be mad his son is eating my food when that wasn’t the case I was mad that HE just sat around and expected me to do all this stuff when In all actuality ITS NOT MY RESPONSIBILITY TO MAKE SURE HES TAKIN CARE OF !I wanted him to get up and try to help out being he had a child to take care of not me.food would go so fast obviously because I’m trying to care for everyone and I just couldn’t do it !he would try to force me to play step parent before I was even a parent at all he’d say how he wants me to do this and that for his son and it just pissed me off because we’re not married and you can hardly even be loyal to me so why would I step up in such ways f you can’t even do what your supposed to do?? Everything just started to irritate I hated when they’d come over I hated when they would be around me I just hated it all I love my boyfriend but he can’t force me to love or act a certain way towards his kids because they’re his kids !i want to save that love for when I have my own !!hed also say how I talked I every other kid in the house it’s not like I tried they’d talk to me because we all live together of course his nephew and nieces would feel comfortable talking to me !his son doesn’t live with us and on top of that you told him not to talk to me so I isolated him and I don’t feel I’m wrong.he says I should be the one to speak being I’m an adult and I should’ve introduced myself because his son doesn’t even know my name which I feel is HIS fault being he kept it a secret he had kids.now as of today I’m ten weeks pregnant and I feel even more resentment because I know how his family is I don’t want anyone saying my kid looks like his others I just feel it’s disrespectful same dad or not that child is a child with a completely different woman say my child looks like their dad not his OTHER kids .i don’t want my child sharing that light with them soon as they are born I just want my child to have there own moment they deserve !when he found out he also said things like “now if I ask you to do this or that for his son you should be able to do it because we have our own now” doesn’t make sense I know but I just felt like why are you telling me what I have to do for your kids when I haven’t even had my own yet!?stop expecting me to play mother and stuff before I am one I just want my first Experience to be special and be special and with my first kid before you try to make me step parent!! I remember another time he was laying down on his game and I was getting ready to lay down because I didn’t feel good and he asks me to check on his son I said no you do it and continued to lay down he got so upset with me said I’m a b*tch like I DONT HAVE TO DO THAT!!!youre just laying here you get up and go check on your own son!!hed even ask his mom (his sons grandma ) to make his son a plate even though he was doing nothing she even said no tell your dad or you do it so why can’t I?and that’s his GRANDMOTHER I just feel he’s lazy and wants everyone to treat his kids Like royalty.So again I ask you AM I WRONG???its not like I’m married and all this acting like this and it’s not like it just started for no reason he made me this way !and now that I’m goin to have my own I’m definitely not going to pay much mind to his kids