Sleeping Arrangements for SS15
Background - DS4 told authorities that his older half brother, SS15, touched him inappropriately over the summer (when they were 3 and 14 respectively). SS15 never denied but never claimed responsbility. CPS and the county sheriff's office were involved. No charges were pressed but we were told to maintain supervision of the boys at all times. We have cameras and alarms up; SS was moved to another floor with his own bedroom/bath.
Current issue - DH is taking the skids to visit their cousins over the winter break. LOs and I are not going. I told DH that he needs to ensure that SS is not sleeping in the same room as the younger male cousins (8 and 10), per CPS and the Sheriff's office. Blow up ensued. DH is livid, because SS is innocent, he says. DH clearly still doesn't believe our DS4, despite therapists and law enforcement telling DH that he was deluding himself.
At this point, who's responsbility is it to manage SS15 when it comes to other kids? My thinking is that it's the parents responsbility, and that DH shouldn't be putting anyone at risk. But DH says that SS15 will want to bunk with his cousins and "that's that".
Thoughts? I have zero communication with DH's brother and sister-in-law, just DH's parents. I have considered talking to DH's mom, since she is aware of the case and to date, has remained neutral.