SD19 ... no show
SD19 did not join SS15 for a visit this week as expected.
She and DH have bounced between screaming at each other and professing their emotionally incestuous love for one another by phone and facetime.
DH refuses to tell me what the issues are with regards to me, although I have only asked once because I heard some nasty statements made about me when she was on speakerphone (in another room but she was pretty loud). He also says that he's not going to be "stuck in the middle", and that she and I need to "resolve our issues". My only response has been that when she's ready to apologize for her unacceptable behavior over Christmas, I'll be happy ok have a conversation with her. But until then, I will not be chasing her as he does and Hope's that he encourages her, as her father, to make better decisions. (Obviously he wont do this)
Given that we are stuck at home with covid stay at home orders for the foreseeable future, I am minimizing conflict unless it's absolutely necessary.
What are some good comeback phrases for DH when he says that he's mad at me because his daughter won't visit because of me? I know it's not entirely true, but I really need hi to shut it.
I have tried "My understanding is that she is mad at both of us, and keeps changing her story as to why. Let me know when you have figured it out and are willing to share that as my partner."
I have also tried "if no one tells me what I've done wrong, I will not be chasing any one or answers."