She joined us for dinner unexpectedly this past week after a month of saying she would never see us again.
She was nice to everyone... except for me. She wouldn't answer simple questions. Ok, fine, it was one dinner.
But the highlight of the night was her epic tantrum that her room was used as the guestroom while she was away at college. A number of her items were placed in the closet (decorative stuff), with the idea being we would put them back if she visited again. Given her last minute plans to join us for dinner (no plan to stay the night), neither DH nor I had a chance to put them back.
She started in on me, and I declined the conversation. I was putting the little kids to bed and just couldn't. DH finally brought her to the living room. I texted him from upstairs that I would not be engaging in anything with his daughter, and that he needed to deal with her.
In the end, she took all her stuff and moved it out, back to her Mom's, although she left behind old clothing.
Dh is now pissed with me for moving stuff to the closet, and for not "working this out with her". I told him that moving decorations was not the real issue, that he cut me out if the parenting equation long ago, and that his daughter doesnt want to work anything out with me... she was there to bash me and put on a poor-me show in front of her father. He's also now saying that I moved her stuff on purpose so that she was "compelled to leave".
I know I can't get through to him. So this is really more of a vent.
He's exhausting and so is his daughter.