After a nights thinking about all yr comments, I need to make a plan. I need to disengage because living with 15SS full time is making me miserable and I don't want to be a moody mum to my own kids when they are doing nothing wrong.
How do I disengage as I've tried saying I'll keep out of it before then I get sucked back in and end up getting annoyed at all their stupid plans and decisions. I've also tried not doing his washing/ironing/cooking his meals etc and then I feel guilty and partner and MIL think this is terrible that I do it for my own kids and not SS.
How do I word it so that I don't sound like I'm being as immature as the boy?
I really want the manipulation of his dad to stop regarding SS getting his own way all the time.
I want SS to realise this is also MY house-that I pay the bills, paid a lump sum off the mortgage etc.
I think SS should stick to visitation plans and if he can't do this I think he should consider living with BM.
I think my partner should start making this family a priority and if SS wants to be part of it, he sticks to our rules.
Is that unreasonable?