Tried disengaging and SS15 is taking this as his opportunity to completely get daddy to do everything he says. I cannot witness this pathetic guitly parenting and not be engaged in it. I have to be physically absent to not let it get to me. I feel physically sick and am furious. Basically SS wants to alter visitation (fo the millionth time in 5 yrs) to suit him. He has failed exmas , is direspectful and causes trouble at school. He lives with us mostly (and my 2 kids)and seeing as this was my house too, I said that no sorry it was unacceptable for him to just come and go as he pleases. SO agreed , told SS who said 'no' he would do what he wants, now SO is saying he has to do what SS wants to 'keep him happy'. I HATE this manipulative lying child' and I hate his fathers complete lack of respect for my feelings and opinions.