SD went straight for the jugular last night. HUGE FIGHT
BS5 called SD almost 17 stupid last night and she retaliated by telling him that believing in Santa, Tooth fairy and Easter bunny is stupid because they don't exsist and it's really us and called him a brat
BS was and still is very much a mess and SD refuses to apologize. YES! I KNOW 2 WRONGS DON'T MAKE A RIGHT BUT THAT WAS CRUEL.
DH and I had a huge following out because he sees SD through rose colored glasses since i've disengaged (which backfired). Yes, I was upset with SD and said some things to her and she then attacked my parenting and told me how life is full of disappointments and how I should get used to it. Whille H and I were going at it, THAT VINDICTIVE, MANIPULATIVE WITCH WAS SMIRKING.
I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!! WHY DID I EVER GET MYSELF INTO THIS MESS!!
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The fact that he didn't come
The fact that he didn't come down on a 17 yr old for shattering the magic for a 5 yr old is despicable. I think you know what you need to do. SD won. She can have her daddy all to herself.
I HATE HER SO MUCH! She doesn
I HATE HER SO MUCH! She doesn't want daddy for herself. She just wants to "mess" with my life like how I did hers. I didn't mess up her life. Bm and H did that themselves. I regret ever getting involved with a seperated man and meeting SD the same year their divorce was finalized. I had to because I was pregnant. I've had a target on my back since then.
is it fair to your son to
is it fair to your son to live like that?
ABSOLUETLY NOT
after what happened this morning in the kitchen,I'm at my parents place and probably going to stay here while the witch is at my house
How cruel to take that away
How cruel to take that away from a child. I could see my SD doing something like this. It's ridiculous that your husband didn't come down hard on his kid for doing that. That would be a huge turn off to me, not sure how I could respect my husband after that. Is your BS your husband's child also?
I've been so turned off my
I've been so turned off my him lately that we've haven't had sex in a while. "DH" is father, but instead of acting like it and coming down on the witch, he chose to go off on me! He was going on about how I was making the situation worse. I hate this. I hate him and I hate SD!!
DON'T FIGHT IN FRONT OF SKIDS
No matter how much you want to DO NOT fight in front of your Skids! You take that to another room or you wait til they're asleep or away. If you fight in front of them they think theyve won and they will go to tell BM all about it. Once they find something that works to make you fight they will keep at it and keep dividing you. It's a game to them.
DON'T FIGHT IN FRONT OF SKIDS
Family legend here: My uncle,
Family legend here: My uncle, age 11, told his sister, my mom, there was no Santa Claus. Christmas came and my mom got the traditional stocking with nuts, an orange, and a small toy. Uncle's stocking was full of coal.
This is our contingency plan
This is our contingency plan if that happens. Anyone who says Santa, etc aren't real, don't get a visit from them.
I do think that fighting in
I do think that fighting in front of children (arguing, discussing is different than fighting. Fighting implies raised voices, to me) isn't great. Especially when the child in question will use it to her advantage in the future. That being said, it is so messed up to shatter a child's belief in magic like that, especially because at 5 he likely only has 1-2 christmases left where he'll believe. When we told the SDs and DD the truth, our number one point was that you do NOT ruin this for other kids. It's such a heartless thing to do, and it indicates a really unhappy existence to want to hurt a child like that.
I would insist on an apology. Whether you try to salvage DS's belief in Santa or not is up to you, but she needs to apologize either way.
Lots of issues going on here.
Lots of issues going on here. I just read all your past blogs, OP.
I see some posters in the past have blamed you for SD's resentment - asking what did you expect after having an affair with a married man? But you clarified the situation and said that you met him when he was separated. Either way, people should not be so quick to judge you. What about her daddy's role in the perceived wrongdoing? You can bet your bottom dollar he's not owning or acknowledging anything on his part. You can be the fall guy, so that he maintains a relationship with precious girl...
Anyway, I think that you need peace and calmness for your son. It sounds like your H will forever make his daughter a priority over you and your son together. Can you live with that situation? Is it ideal for your boy?
If the answer is no, you need to make alternative plans for the future.
Sounds like this young woman
Sounds like this young woman has a lot of resentment toward you and your 5-year-old. I would recommend minimizing their interactions if possible. With a sister like that, who needs enemies?