I messed up big time
DH has a 15 year old daughter from his previous marriage and we have a 3 year old son together. We have been married for five years. Hard as I try, his daughter and I just don't get along . She's not rude to me because she tried that early in our relationship and her father put his foot down. So she knows that she can't be disrespectful, but she doesn't welcome me into her life. She avoids me as much as possible and doesn't include me in her things if she can help it at all. Obviously this is affecting her relationship with her father because I am his wife, so he's not going to let her get away with not treating me like a member of the family.
she's started refusing to come to our house at all. When DH finally got her to talk to him she told him that he should ask me whether I really wanted her here since I called her a rude little bit**. I was shocked because I'd never said that to her. The thing is though, I did say it. I was venting to a friend on the phone one day and she may have overheard me. Everyone gets angry and I was venting to a friend on mine. I would never say it to her face but since she overheard, It's much worse.
Dh is very angry with me. She is now refusing to come for visitation, and her mother says that she's old enough to make her choices - plus she's no fan of me anyway so it's not like she's inclined to fix things
They have a court order but her mother is saying that she had no intention of letting her daughter around me at all after this. His daughter is fueling the fire and my husband is pissed at me. I feel so angry at this whole situation.