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frustratedstepdad's picture

So tired of SD24's manipulative ways. So she's flying back into town on Thursday, and her flight gets in at 11:30pm. Come to find out that she didn't even verify that she has a place to stay before she bought her ticket. Before they stayed with us for 2 months, they were staying with a friend of theirs. When she left to go to Colorado, the boyfriend stayed behind and is now living with the friend. SD24 asked the friend about staying there again, and he said to give him a week to think about it. Like a dumb ass she went ahead and bought her ticket before he had time to decide.

SD24's boyfriend called her and left a voicemail message saying he was going out shooting pool one night. Well because SD24 is completely insecure she called back and started an argument, talking about he should've "asked permission" before going out. Of course they got into a big fight, and their friend said that the boyfriend can stay there, but SD24 can't come live there, which is understandable.

So now the only other place SD24 can go is to live with her older sister (SD28), who is also a piece of shit who doesn't take care of her kids. She rents a room in a house with 4 other males, and all of them do drugs.

SD24 called yesterday and put GS4 on the phone. He was going on and on about how he can't wait to come live with us again. Well of course DW starts crying and tells him that he's not going to live with us. Then SD24 gets back on the phone talking about how she's not going to be comfortable living with SD28 because of all the guys living there, and how she might just have to stay in a hotel room. DW told her that she will pick her up from the airport and let them stay the night, then in the morning she will drive them where she wants to go.

I'm so sick and tired of SD24 making DUMB ass decisions and then expecting other people to get her out of the mess she created. She knew what she was doing when she put her son on the phone. Sorry, but that guilt shit isn't going to work with me anymore!! She should've stayed in Colorado and tried to make it work instead of running back here to be up under her lazy boyfriend's nutsack. I'm standing my ground though, because I'm sick and tired of having my marriage revolve around my adult skids anymore.

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just.his.wife's picture

You realize what the plan is right?

She will get in the house and not leave. If your wife is having this hard of a time telling her no over the phone, there is no way she is going to say no to her face to face. She and the kid will be in your house, living there, again.

frustratedstepdad's picture

Oh no the hell she won't! I have made it CRYSTAL clear that SD24 is NOT going to live with us again. I was talking with my mother-in-law yesterday and even she agrees that SD24 shouldn't live with us again. MIL isn't going to let SD24 live with her again either, because she tried that once and SD24 was disrespectful, and always wanted her to watch her son.

I've drawn my line in the sand. If SD24 stays more than one night, I am cancelling our anniversary trip to Mexico, and I am using the money to get my own place.

frustratedstepdad's picture

I am nervous about it too, even cringed when DW told me they would be spending the night. But DW said she will be taking the next day off work and driving her down to Eugene (2 hours away) so she can stay with friends.

frustratedstepdad's picture

I completely understand your pain. I came into their lives when the youngest stepdaughter was 16 and it has been hell ever since. Been living here 8 years, and the longest time we've had the house to ourselves is 8 months. The key is that your spouse has to be on board with taking a stand, or the cycle will never end.