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I hate my Step-Demon (Daughter)

frustratedstepdad's picture

So from my last blog post, we have been taking care of the grandkids now for 3 weeks. We are giving SD25 until Sept 5th to get her sh*t together and have her own place, or the temporary custody becomes permanent. It's been really stressful these last few weeks. We're often so tired and busy each night that we hardly have time to talk to one another. Not to mention we've only had sex once in the past three weeks since we're usually so tired due to a lack of sleep. (One of the kids is a 5 month old infant who wakes up at least twice a night).

Our babysitter happens to be friends with SD25. Apparently SD25 confided in her yesterday that she probably won't have her own place by our deadline. Finally, FINALLY DW realizes that her daughter is a manipulative piece of shit who has caused nothing but stress in our lives. I love the grandkids, but I'm literally sick to my stomach at the thought of having to raise two kids. It takes a LOT for me to actually HATE someone as I'm usually easy-going and laid back, but I literally HATE SD25. She has caused so much stress and drama in our lives and marriage, and I resent DW for not recognizing this sooner. I feel like I have been through way too much and I don't really ask for much in return.

I'm honestly faced with the realization today that this marriage just may not work. She has let our marriage revolve around SD25's bullshit for way too long; even my mother-in-law has warned DW repeatedly that my stepdaughters will ruin our lives if she keeps bailing them out. I also hate that I listened to my heart instead of my head and didn't bail on this relationship when I realized how things could possibly turn out. I am seriously at a crossroads here....

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DaizyDuke's picture

Oh no! Is S25 the one with the little boy who you guys had all the time while she was stripping and just being a general constant pain in the ass? She had ANOTHER baby????? She is such a piece of shit, I hate her right along with you!

Why can't SD live with the older SD? Didn't she do that once? Or did she burn that bridge?

OMG I was just thinking about you last week. Sorry to hear that things have not gotten any better.. of course I think we all knew, including you, that this piece of shit is NEVER going to miraculously turn her life around, she's in too deep, and unfortunately A LOT of it has to do with how your DW has continued to enable her all her life. :?

frustratedstepdad's picture

Yep DaizyDuke that's the same daughter.

Basically SD25 has burned all of her bridges and none of her other family members will allow her to live with them, just like she and/or her boyfriend will NEVER live with us again.

Not only has SD25 been a drain on our marriage, but DW has some health issues with her stomach that always get worse when she's stressed out. She is literally allowing SD25 to take years off her life.

You are correct, SD25 will NEVER turn her life around because every problem is always somebody else's fault. Even that whole fiasco with the police from my last blog, she blames on me. My blood boils every time her name is even mentioned around me.

ctnmom's picture

You are not morally or legally obligated to raise step grandkids. I don't think I could do it. :O

ChiefGrownup's picture

I have notified dh I will not be raising stepgrandkids or failure to launch skids in our house for one minute. He knows it is an absolute boundary I have and he has already notified me that he's fine with that and will not tolerate it, either.

The drama you have already put up with would have driven me out of the house by now. And I ADORE my spouse. But I just would not live like that and he knows it. Luckily, he adores me, too, plus he also respects my opinion about what constitutes good child-rearing.

I say let your wife sacrifice herself on the altar of She-Demon. You save yourself. Go with the fake your own death plan you had before.

frustratedstepdad's picture

Luckily she finally took her kids back last weekend, so at least we are kid free for now.

I honestly don't know why my loser ass stepkids keep having kids, but I'm so sick and tired of always being a safety net for their stupid decisions.