Worried about possible court results
My SO is in the process of divorce and child custody. BM wants custody of the kids (even though she hasn't wanted custody or to be an active part of their lives in the 4 years before filing for divorce), child support, alimony, and SO to pay her lawyer fees.
Worried about the possible outcome, and how the court comes up with if alimony should be paid or not, and how much to be paid. Would paying BM alimony even if he gets full custody happen? She doesn't have a job (her own choice, nothing to do with having to put her career on hold to care for the kids, and she has already had 4 years to get back on her feet anyway), so she wouldn't be paying my SO any child support (she gets 2000 a month from VA and that is it, plus money from GI bill when she takes classes at a college).
My SO makes a decent income, but if he has to pay her alimony + her court fees, he wouldn't even have enough left over to keep a roof over their heads, pay for daycare, for everything the kids need, etc. SO is currently on her health insurance from the Army (45 a month, nothing out of pocket at military base facilities). Once he has to get his own insurance through his work (Which he will need, because he needs expensive treatments every 6 weeks), it will cost him 500-800 a month monthly, plus a very high deductible + copays. Right now, he has about 1000 left over every month. 1000 left over that will soon be going to health insurance and his treatments... he cannot go without the treatments. As it is, even without paying her a dime, he will be tight on cash each month.
If she gets the kids, child support, and alimony, he will be in similar/even worse position. The amount he would have to pay in child support would be more than what he is currently paying each month for the kids to live with him.
So I am wondering if the court would take this into account.... If him having to pay her alimony would cause him to lose his home, ability to pay for the kids, and loss of job because he would have to move back with his parents in another state, would they just not require him to pay her? just pay her a lot less? Tell him he will have to figure out some way to make it work, work longer, get a second job, etc?