I haven't been here in a while because everything has been going really well lately. BM only calls once a month or less, but she does start issues everytime she calls. She got both boys subscription packages. Older son 10 has gotten 5 so far while younger son 9 (high functioning autistic and legally blind) has only gotten 1 so far... thinking his wasn't a subscription or she cancelled his. The older one gets cool stuff, but requires you to build stuff. 9 year old got a box designed for autism that only had a few toys in it that he is too old for, and it seems like it is more geared towards severe autistic kids. She had an issue that my SO hasn't let son10 build his yet, but it requires time and probably his help that he hasn't had much time for. He has been studying to pass another cert for his job on weekends.

So we got engaged on christmas too. Plan to get married at the end of June and hoping to start trying for a baby in August.

Some things have came up with the house, had a leak in the roof that was able to be sealed for now, but needs to be replaced this year. Needed the tree in our front yard cut down as well. Luckily, one of our neighbors does roofing for a living, and him and his son were able to cut down the tree as well. Our driveway is just a stone driveway and we need to get more to fill in some holes. Don't want to pave it yet as it would be too expensive and the roof is the priority this year.

As for the future MIL, I have determined that she is a narcissist. I know my previous posts were not very clear and people jumped on me about me seeming to need to always be in control, etc. It isn't really like that though.. we had just moved to a new place, just moved in together, and didn't have time to adjust to things before they showed up and started setting examples and the kids thinking that is how it would always be. Those first few weeks were a nightmare. Over the past 5 months though, things have gotten a lot better and we have gotten into a nice routine that suits everyone. Anyway, she has narcissitic traits like thinking she is entitled to make the rules here and not have to follow SO's rules and doesn't think I should have any say whatsoever even though I live here. She always needs everything her way and goes off when she doesn't. Even my fiance didn't like her behavior the last time she was here, but didn't want to cause his dad more stress. I am not looking forward to her being at our wedding, but I know my family won't put up with her if she tries to start anything there.

I have decided that I will ignore her whenever I have to be around her, avoid her when she is in one of her moods, and only talk to her when she asks me something directly. I will tell my fiance about the major stuff she does, just to inform him about what is going on, but won't expect him to really do anything.

So another thing is, ss9 asked me why I don't like g-mom, saying that she said so. I don't doubt that she did. But future FIL tried to explain that it was a more general conversation about how people can love someone and not like them, and can like someone but not love them, etc. etc. This may be true, but there is also a 99% chance that g-mom said something to him/both kids about me not liking her..... this is the exact reason I don't like her, because she brings the kids into things that they don't need to know about, and couldn't even tell them that she dislikes me. I'm sure she dislikes me a lot more than I dislike her.

I also got a small part-time work from home job where I am earning anywhere from 600-1000 per month depending on hours I work. We will be buying a new to us vehicle later this year and start saving for a baby. Fiance's tax refund will pay off his vehicle and two credit cards, and build up the extra savings for the new roof, and start getting his full VA check in may once is debt to them is paid off, and May will be the last time of paying $800 for daycare each month...Next year will only be $400 a month for the school year. Doing pretty great financially as well.

--Just thought I would share a little update.