The things you can find out with a little bit of internet research
In my prior blog posts, I talked about the court process between my SO and his now ex-wife and their 2 sons. My SO has them full time, she gets the first 6 weeks of summer vacation. Since the court date in October, she has called to talk to them only 2-3 times, and have sent them a package twice. Nothing for christmas, but she did send stuff for st patricks day and valentines day.
Well last night, I decided to do some digging. I had her address (she was renting a house) from the court records, and decided to search for it on google. What did I find? That the house she was living in was put up for sale by owner back in february(has since been delisted). But the pictures of the house made it look completely empty, like noone was living there. She may still be living there, but it looks unlikely. Since I now had some pictures of the house she was renting, I compared them to the pictures on her boyfriends facebook where he mentions living with her as a caption. Surprise, they are two completely different houses. So, she either moved in with her boyfriend and his sister, or they got their own place.
In a letter she sent the boys, she also said that she got rid of her truck and now has a mazda. Another surprise, her BOYFRIEND bought a used Mazda back in january. Do they both have mazdas now, or is the one she was referring to actually the boyfriends Mazda?
If she is no longer renting a house (by herself), and especially if she is just living with her boyfriend and his sister, where is all her money going now? It hasn't been going to child support, she hasn't paid a dime since the court ruling.
My SO is going to contact out states child support office (which he already set up to collect child support) and see what they can do about directly taking the money from her VA disability checks, or from her checking account right after it gets deposited.
With her not updating my SO of her address change, SO's lawyer will probably say he doesn't have to let them go with her this summer (especially since she cut her old phone off the day after the court proceedings and hasn't given him her new number yet, if she even has one). If she has a problem with that, she can go back to court.
His other option is to just take it back to court now to deal with the child support not being paid, and legally taking away her visitation, or giving her more requirements if she does take them (must provide address, phone number, tell him by June 1st whether she is taking them or not, etc.).
We also have good news: SO put an offer in to buy a house and it was accepted. Passed inspection (still waiting on radon and well water test). Final step is for the VA mortgage appraisal to pass. Closing date is set for May 11. We will be moving in the Saturday after the kids are done school June 15th. Hopefully she doesnt show up that saturday so the kids can at least enjoy their new home for a couple days first.
SO's lawyer says he has to tell her where he is now living. I really dont want her to know where I live, but if he could get in trouble with the courts for not telling her, then I guess he should (unlike her not telling him anything about moving).