I get so tired of having to deal with what seems to be constant bullsh*t that in some way involves the BM. This is just the last couple of days…

1. BM and DH “exchange” SD7 on Friday afternoons and again on Sunday evenings. Because DH works nights, he is in bed by 10 am and usually gets up around 5-6 pm. DH gets up ~ 2 hours early on Fridays so he can make the exchange at a reasonable time. BM knows his schedule as well as anyone. This past Friday, BM decides she’s going to be late for the exchange, by an hour and a half. Does she call and let DH know this, even though she knew very early in the day, so DH doesn’t have to get up early?? Of course not. She texts him at 11 am to tell him, which he doesn’t get because he’s asleep!! As he’s on his way to get SD that afternoon, he turns on his cell phone and there’s the text message. When he does finally get SD that evening he asks BM why she didn’t call him earlier to tell him, her response was she just didn’t feel like talking to him. ARRRGGGG!! Not only did it get him up much earlier than he had to be, but it also screwed up our whole evening, including dinner plans. DH and SD didn’t get back until almost 8 pm. SD was starving by this time. BM didn’t bother to get SD anything to eat. BM was not in the least concerned, because it didn’t affect HER!!

2. DH e-mailed BM to request either she take SD to get her hair cut at her regular salon or we will take care of it when she comes to spend the summer with us in another week. A little background…last summer we wanted to cut SD’s hair shorter so it would be easier to manage with swimming, cooler, etc. BM said no way and we didn’t push the issue. What does BM do as soon as SD goes back to her to start school last year? Cuts SD’s hair short! Because again, SHE didn’t want to have to deal with the long hair getting SD up and ready for school. It’s all about BM and what’s good for her and the hell with everybody else. We said this year we are getting it cut no matter what BM says. So, DH sends the e-mail as noted above and BM flips her lid, again. In essence she states SD does not want her hair cut (sorry SD is 7, does not take care of her own hair, so doesn’t get a vote) and would get upset if we had it cut. We talked to SD about it this weekend and she was OK with it anyway. BM also stated “I don't want her hair cut short”. Well, you know what? Too bad. We don’t recall BM calling DH last year and asking his permission.

3. BM and DH agreed to meet today to exchange SD. DH e-mails BM on Saturday and tells her he has a Dr. appointment at 11 am and will call her as soon as he’s free and they can meet at the usual place. BM e-mails DH last night and says she will be in town at Noon and she doesn’t have the money or gas to drive into town twice, so she’ll see DH at Noon. Excuse me, but DH will probably not be out of the Dr. and then all the way across town by Noon??!! The woman is an idiot.

Although BM is usually a pain in the butt under normal circumstances, she appears to have a hair across her *ss lately. And you know the sad and very frustrating part? It probably has absolutely nothing to do with us. If BM is in a bad mood, fighting with her husband, or whatever, she takes it out on DH / us and becomes just a royal b*tch to deal with. It depresses me to think I have to have this woman in my life for the next 11 years at least. There have been people that have done some pretty rotten things to me throughout my life, but I have never despised anyone like I do BM. If she was on fire in front of me I wouldn’t so much as spit on her. Not very Christian, but it is how I feel. Thanks for listening to my very long vent, but it does help to get it out.