Frustrated with DH due to job loss
Dh found out earlier this month that his company will close and he will lose his job in March. In October, his company lost a major client and I told Dh that he needed to look for a job. Of course, this statement fell on deaf ears.
His company is offering some employees a job across(over 1000 miles away) the US in a major metropolitan. DH wants to move. I am shocked but in my opinion the move just doesn't make sense financially.
DH "thinks" he will make an additional $12,000 a year. The company will give him a relocation package of about $3,000. Dh's commute will be 45 minutes in traffic. He has an hour 1/2 commute now with very little traffic.
Rent will be over $1,000 more a month. I will lose my job. I have been with my company almost 10 years. I have busted my behind to move up to make more money. Dh has only worked for his company for 3 years. I have looked in the area and I will not be able to make the money that I make now, I will lose about $10,000 a year. I work from home now. I will have at least a 45 minute drive in traffic. I will have to buy a new wardrobe for work.
We (99% me) have some money saved. We were looking at buying a house here. If we move, that savings will be gone in about 1 week. We would need first and last months rent plus deposit for a rental.
I currently pay all the household bills and my car payment and phone bill. Dh does give me money from time to time to help pay the bills but most of his money is going towards child support and SD. DH and I have separate banking accounts. DH is horrible with money.
I know that BM will ask for more child support and DH will have to fly back for court. I have tried to give DH all the cons of moving. He is dead set on going.
If it wasn't for the fact that I would have to get the apartment lease in my name and pay the first, last months rent and deposit, I would send DH and he could stay there by himself.
I have tried to convince DH to apply for a job here that pays almost the money he is making now with only a 30 minute commute. He doesn't want it because it isn't in his field and it is a 2nd shift job. There isn't any jobs in his field available right now but they could be opening up. I would hate for him to pass up this job that pays within a $1,000 a year of what he is making now.
Can anyone think of any more cons? Also, if you have in pros let me know.