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New update...and am a mess about it!!!!

daisy0202's picture

Well as everyone knows we had our break through....felt good about it, like a jackass put my guard down a little thinking, "OK this is going to change now"....GUESS WHAT!!!!

Well yesterday was a horrible day....SD16 in the morning was pissy. She was not happy because she told me she didn't feel good in the morning. I took her temp,(normal) asked what hurt, (she says nothing hurts just do not feel good). OK...Ahh well your not vomiting, no fever, heres some Tylenol and I am sure you can make the day. (she is out way to much) When you come home you can rest for the night. She runs upstairs. A few minutes later DH calls and tells me SD is going to stay home she is sick.... WHAT????? She is fine I took her temp she is not vomting there is really no need for her to stay home (I had the day off)...Well she is so talk to you later was DH's response....Whatever....So i did my errands came home did laundry, prepare dinner all that house wife stuff we do....SD comes down around 12 and says "you going to make me lunch"....Ahhh no theres stuff in the fridge you can make it....Then she tells me...Oh my friend is home to she is going to pick me up and were going to the mall.... :jawdrop: My response does your father know...She says yes, I dont have to ask him everything anyway you know...OMG....So I go to the basement and call DH he says oh yes she is feeling better she wants to spend some more of her Xmas money....WTF is wrong with this picture....Whatever....She goes...I am beside myself at this point but shes not mine so...

Now night falls DH is home, I am just ignoring the whole day cause already pissed off at what happened but....Its time for therapy...SD and DH leave....when they come back DH sits me down and tells me Therapist told her she really should not be with BM during the week and only go everyother weekend :jawdrop: I am at a lose...I feel that sick feeling, and just think to myself...I CAN"T!!!!!I do not know what to do...There is drama and shit everyday....Last night she was bitching about some teacher that gives to much homework and thinks students do not have a life and that daddy should go speak to her about this....Then she is complaining of some friend that she feels is not a true friend because she told her there is to much drama in her life and she needs to chill.....SD replys as follows...

SD: I am sooo sick of the drama with my friends....I have none and they make all my drama, WTH is wrong with these people...OMG, I am sick of people, sick of school and just wish they would just leave me alone MY GOD....I hate drama!!!!

SHUT THE F&*^*( UP!!!!! SERIOUSLY!!!!

This morning..
SD: I am going to my moms tonight but if she gives me any trouble you are going to have to pick me up so dont make any plans to go out or anything.

Me: Dad will be home....

SD: Where do you think your going?

Me: excuse me??? I dont think i have to tell you everything now do i...I smile and say now get your back pack its time for school....

SD: Whatever just letting you know I will probably not be staying at my moms so....

I roll my eyes and say to myself" of course not"....

I want to SCREAM :sick:

Comments

the_stepmonster's picture

Wow. What a little B. How old is she again? I think you need to completely disengage from her. You also need to tell DH that you don't think you would be able to handle having her 24/7 during the week if he isn't going to do shit about her behavior. I would be livid if I were you!

Is there any way you can make plans with your DH like going to a movie or play or something that way when SD calls he is too busy to pick her up? Your lives should NOT revolve around what this little hellion wants.

Patsy's picture

What is BM saying about your SD staying with you all. How does this work if the therapist is the one telling you she shouldn't be with mom during the week? I take it you guys have full custody?

daisy0202's picture

She is 16....Yes my DH has full custody...and right now BM does not know this. Tonight SD16 is telling her. Which i told DH is completely wrong because BM is going to FREAK OUT!!!!!!! DH does not want confrontation and refuses to tell BM....I am beside myself from all this and SO SICK OF THIS DRAMA!!!!!...It is something every single day....I mean WTF!!!!!

Told my son 14, we are going food shopping tonight and I am taking you for dinner...he asks me is SF comming.....NOPE!!!! he needs to sit home in case SD calls so he can go running...He wont go out tonight in case she needs him....FUCK THIS ALREADY!!!!

daisy0202's picture

I have never told her off...I try my best to jusy ignore it and not make more shit...But I am getting to my boiling point!!! I have had enough and the thought we will have her all week long and just 4 days a month without her...I really do not think I will make that...I can't!!!! It is making my stomach turn....and to boot the thought that she is leaving today to go to BM and I have no doubt she will be back tonight is making me ill :sick:

My DH tried to call me this morning...I couldnt even answer...I was so BS....My oldest called from college...Poor kid..I vented to him...he was like Fuck that mom...Just ignore these people....I wish i could!!!

Newstep's picture

Wow Daisy I feel for you!!! I can't even imagine Sad I feel like you are living my future SO has finally started to wise up to SD's ways but his guilty parenting is all he knows. I hope he stays strong or I will be in your shoes one day soon!! Good luck to you and take care of yourself.

daisy0202's picture

Ripley i totally hear where your comming from. My issue is this....This shit she pulls always seems to interfere in my life...Such as tonight....We were supposed to have SD but since she has been with us all week she decided to go see Bm tonight and come back tomorrow....Now tonight we already had plans to go food shopping and go out for dinner....Now DH can not go, Actually let me change that to WONT go because if SD needs him he wants to be home to go run to her if shit hits the fan which ALWAYS does....I told DH to bad if she wants to go see BM and knows there is always an issue than you need to deal with it or just don't go. His response i can not keep her from her mom...No you can not but you cant sit home either and wait for the worse to happen I mean WTF is that....So I am supposed to hold everything bevause of this kid...FUCK THAT!!!! You stay home i am going out with my son....and he was upset why cant i just wait till tomorrow....because the plan was today dickhead thats why!!!! Sorry for the language it just pisses me off!!!