idiots. they remind of my cousin, who has a daughter that would eat anything. i suppose it probably qualified as pica. i had some medicine in a zipped up backpack that was sitting on her table. her kid was 2. she never watched her and just let her run wild. so when the kid climbed up on the table and got into my bag and my pills, it was somehow MY fault for having pills in my bag and my bag on the table. well out of reach of a child who was supervised and not allowed to climb on the table. nevermind the 200 other things she has eaten while in her mother's care when no one else was around, like diaper rash cream, chap stick, deodorant, etc. nope, that means nothing. this was all my fault and had nothing to do with her NOT WATCHING HER PICA KID.

Is the cat ok?!?

I see both sides. I am sure the cat did not do anything wrong. On the other hand, accusing the parents of neglecting their kid might not be accurate either. Sometimes these things happen in a few seconds..the few seconds we look away to watch TV, go to the bathroom, etc

When my kid was 2 my parents dog nipped at her because she tried to take his bone away. I was in the kitchen feeding the baby.

Nevertheless I did not blame the dog. He reacted instinctively and honestly was not trying to hurt her, just warn her. She did have a cut, but had this dog intended to hurt her, he would've taken a chunk out of her face. My parents and I agreed that the dog would be gated downstairs for everyone's protection when we came over so this did not happen again.

Maybe you guys could do something like that?

I have this conversation with DH all the time. I have a cat which I had before I even had BD12. She is a grouchy old thing - she has hissed at SS6 since day 1. I don't know what he did to her to be hissed at though. She doesn't have anything to do with any of the kids, but she hisses at SS6 always. DH is always mad at the cat. I said, tell him to stay away from her. I have caught him many times shouting her name while he stomps toward her.

I tell DH this when he says, the cat doesn't like SS6 with SS6 there, I say, well if he is mean to her she will scratch him. Tell him to stay away.

I caught him throwing stuffies at her, he tried to hide them behind his back - I said, SS6 - she is going to get you and its going to hurt, she is going to scratch you and you will bleed. I told you to stay away from her. Uggg, drives me insane.

SS6 deserves every scratch he gets - he is 6, old enough to stay away.

She may not tolerate any of the kids but she doesn't hiss or hurt or scratch them - they stay away, she stays away.

Nice.

One SS came home with a scratch RIGHT NEXT to his EYE, he was about 2 years old. It was deep. DH asked BM what happened. BM said, that's what he gets for pulling the cats tail. DH said, NO that's what happens when you aren't watching your son. Idiot.

This is a giant pet peeve of mine. People…watch your damn kids and don’t let them be mean to animals!!

I sat down all kids/skid, when DH and I married and moved in together. (I really did not have to do this with my kids because they would NEVER be cruel to animals.) I told them…my 16 year old cat is more important to me than all of you put together. (it was said tongue in cheek). But I did drive home that cat is not to be touched in a rough way at all, or hell would break loose in the house.

I am afraid I would have freaked out if SS threw my cat outside.

SS9 came home from a weekend with BM and he had over 27 scratches on his back along with a good number on his head, arms and a few on the face. The ones on the back were two feet or longer and deep. There were also bites deep in his head.

Apparently the friends BM stayed with that weekend had gotten a cat and kept it inside while there was a cat outside. The two cats were fighting through the Windows and had to be kept apart. BM left SS and after an hour or two he went looking for her, she was outside smoking and as he went out the indoor cat went crazy and tore SS up.

The reason I know how many scratches were on his back is because the doctor counted and was not happy. I told FDH he better make sure the doctor knows that this was due to BM not being around. I had to remind FDH that it want the cats fault but the crappy pretend parent.

I had a problem with my ss8 who used to try to play with the cat. I told him time and time not to mess with the cat and he kept getting scrached. His mom tried to tell me i had to have him declawed i flat out said no if the cat got out he would have no way to defend himself pluse i think it's inhuman. I told ss he needs to learn to listen and leave the cat alone. Have not had a problem for a year now after he started leaving the cat alone. now the cat sleeps with him lol

I'll be the first to admit that on the weekends that I know the skids are coming, I purposefully don't clip my cats claws. They have one that their BM declawed without even trying to train it. (Hey moron! get the cat a scratching post and it might not go after your furniture!)

I've told them multiple times how to not treat the cats and if they don't listen and get scratched, not my problem. I'm a firm believer in natural consequences! }:)

My SK's always used to complain that our dog jumped on them... he was a puppy (big dog puppy) and loves children.

BM had the NERVE to tell my DH and I that we really needed to take our dog to obedience class to get him to stop jumping on people.

My DH ignored her suggestion.

I, on the other hand, had to open my mouth (pre-BM-disengagement) and said, "That's funny stuff coming from someone who's had BOTH her sons in the ER being treated for pretty bad FAMILY DOG bites." (their family dog, not ours)

Please, do tell me how you can possibly believe a 12-year-old child who says he was doing nothing but "standing there" when the dog came up and bit his face, putting his canine tooth right thru SK's nostril??

Did I mention said dog was a dachsund?