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UPDATE to Munchkin in the middle

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Submitted by CLove on Wed, 02/27/2019 - 12:45pm

If you read my previous blog, you will understand that "things got kind of heavy", mostly for Munchkin SD12.

https://www.steptalk.org/blog/clove/munchkin-middle-252417

Well, apparently, Toxic Troll mentioned the fight to DH, and apparently it was because the  "coked out bf" cleaned the bathroom, and Toxic  Feral Eldest dyed her hair again - blue again, and messed it up pretty badly. Part of the reason she doesnt want to live with us - we have a strict "no hair dyes" rule. Like it matters, but still, to give you an idea. So all that, for a fight over cleaning up!

I told DH : "Feral has told so many lies over the years, I sort of believe Toxic Troll - but there is a lot of truth mixed in there too, and Toxic Troll has told so many different lies, how can we truly believe her at all, at this point. She DID leave during 2 of her childs birthdays to pursue other men, leaving you to clean things up. She DOES pursue men at the expense of her children. She DOES  do different medications." He didnt ask about the morphine offer during suicide discussion, he didnt mention anything it was like he didnt know anything.

For those that suggested therapy - I have approached DH about that for munchkin, but with Child support and Alimony and his debts, his half of household bills and rent, he doesnt really have anything extra.

She does have a really nice friend who has been teaching her relaxation techniques for when she gets anxious. I would think they would have been helpful yesterday! I havent spoken, heard from or texted her, or even seen her, since her drop off happens after I leave, so I wont see her until this weekend and we can have any talks she feels like she needs.

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Wed, 02/27/2019 - 1:19pm

I feel badly for Munchkin that her older sister is discussing suicide with her like it's a normal conversation. No child needs that shizzit. Is there any way to limit conversation with Feral??

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Submitted by CLove on Wed, 02/27/2019 - 3:51pm

I was JUST thinking that too.

But, at least there can be open discussion possibly later.

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Submitted by tog redux on Wed, 02/27/2019 - 7:27pm

Gotta ask- why would you not let a 19 yo do whatever she wants to her hair? Seems oddly controlling. 

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Submitted by CLove on Thu, 02/28/2019 - 12:38pm

If you have read any of my previous blog posts, you would have an idea.

She would die her hair, and stain nice towels, stain the carpet in her bedroom, stain the walls in the bathroom, stain the bathroom floor. Leave all the stuff around, not throuw the packages and bottles away.

Currently her mother is having many issues with simply asking her to wash her own dishes. And the entire drama centered around the huge mess she left after dyeing her hair.

Its not about coloring her hair, its about keeping things clean, cleaning up after, and during, its about respecting the space. We dont actually care if she colors her hair like a rainbow, its the mess. its because our space has remnants of the hair color, all over to this day because she did not respect the space.