Taking a break
Well, I did it and boy a I GLAD.
I hit my breaking point with everything and everyone.
Toxic Troll's lies and manipulations, her enmeshment with Munchkin SD14.
Feral Forgers lies and manipulations and enmeshment with Toxic Troll.
Munchkin SD14 who aligns herself with TT against Feral Forger, enmeshed beyond enmeshed.
I feel like I put so much energy, intention and attention to build Munchkin up and help her become strong and independent and she turns around and gives it all directly to TT.
Munchkin SD14 and her Grade-gate. TT was supposed to be taking her to in person class today. Guess who was marked absent. Guess whos As are falling to Bs and is failing 2 other classes again?
Guess which over-functioning Step-Aside-Step parent is taking a break? Yup. I told them Im done for now, need a break. Munchkin needs to get herself to her classes and get her assignments done. Im over putting all the energy out and getting trash talked in return.
Yes I know I waiver.
But it all came to a head when Feral Forger shared my instagram with Toxic Troll who in turn used this information to trash on DH about "choosing cLove over his own daughter and her feelings are very hurt". That, with the past 6 1/2 years of Toxic Troll bashing me to anyone that will listen. That was the hit on the head that I needed. Munchkin missed her first in person class? What can I do? I jumped through so many hoops to get her in there, what else can I do? I even got her out of 2 absences. One of which she showed up to the zoom class 5 minutes before it ended. Boy did I feel like a jerk. The teachers must be really peeved at me. The over functioning step parent who swoops in to rescue skiddo with underfunctioning bio parents.
I need a break.
*** Edited to add
I told DH what I was feeling and turns out he went through the same thing, many times over. Fought hard for the kids to have perfect attendance, make aweseome grades, paid a lot of attention. Then Toxic Troll fights him on it. Tardies and absences - "we went to the mall just for fun". And she gets the glory "Im so proud of you my little enmeshed mini-me!!!!"
When she does no transport and spends no time or efforts. DH just said "well now you are at the point that I came to."