Married with children and ex wife
We did it! SO is now DH. STBSkids are now real life step children.
We eloped and it was very sweet and special and exactly what I wanted. A pretty dress that looks like a water color painting, on a little stage in the forest in front of my parents and a few friends. Quick, easy, peaceful and inexpensive. Loving.
We were not going to tell the family or friends or skids, but I recieved advice that out of respect, I should tell the skids before we do it. I took the advice, and Feral Eldest was very positive (who knows if its the truth, she had the opportunity to be rude and mean, didnt take it, and was very pleasant.) Munchkin got my message the day after I texted her, had a little cry, and said she was ok.
Dum dee dum! The drama rolls in like the poisonous toxic fog from "The Mist" movie. DH receives a text while we are driving to go get my hair done from Toxic Beast "Congratulations! The girls are VERY upset." Then about an hour later, while he is driving to wedding location "11:11 I hope you are happy!" (his birthday is 11/11, so little inside reference...because she has inside knowledge of him, and wants to remind him of that closeness they once shared) Then for the rest of the day, we were in blissful silence because - no cell service!!!
Then, once we got back, "I hope the third time is the charm for you, that you can make this one work!" DH and BM were married once in the local courthouse with a judge friend of hers, and then again in front of friends and family with the white fluffy dress and the fluffy hair with the bangs that were one large straight curl, and the 2 kiddos. So Im the third-time charm! Thanks!
Then, "Munchkin cried ALL DAY, and Feral Eldest consoled her ALL DAY. They are not happy about this and do not ever give their blessing!"
Meanwhile, I get a friendly text from Munckin asking some questions, which I answer, I ask if she is ok, and say that I am sorry that I upset her. She admitted to crying A LITTLE, and then being ok with everything, and hey "Welcome to the family!"
At this point in the evening - 10 pm, we were tired of the continual toxic sludge from BM. I texted Munchkin telling her what her mother is saying, and letting her know she can speak her truth, she sais REALLY I AM FINE WITH EVERYTHING. DH texts Munchkin saying "your mother is texting me bad things about me getting married and you being upset, please ask her to stop!" This is because DH lit the fire by responding with "I dont give you problems over all the different men you are dating, why would concern yourself with who I choose to be with?" She got really upset, and "how DARE you bring up my dating life, this isnt about ME its about the CHILDREN! They are so upset!!! Crying!!!"
After munchkin did her thing, told her mother please stop texting dad bad stuff, its not very nice (she was at BMs house), all that stuff stopped cold. Imagine your own child chastising you for being mean!!!! LOL. Priceless.
Hooray for Munchkin!!!! We picked her up the next day and had a great time tooling around town, and hanging out at home peacefully, laughing pretty much the whole time. She even asked me "how does it feel being married? Are you changing your last name?" And stated matter-of-factly that "well now its really easy when I need to desribe who you are to my friends - I always have to explain and answer questions. Now its easy because I just call you step mom."
The perfect weekend, really.