Happy Monday off, Munchkin SD13 is setting boundaries, and a little anxious
I took Friday through Monday off - to reset and recharge, and yet, here I am, a bit anxious. I really need some feedback and advice. I dont know what to tell DH, and Munchkin SD13.
Update: My back and body has healed much since the accident. Everything on my car has gotten fixed. Better than before actually, as its an older car with a few bumps in it.
This past weekend we had Dh's 97-year old mom, so I spent some time with her as relief for Muchkin SD13, who was technically watching her (she gets paid good $$$$$), which gave us time to catch up.
Toxic Troll has been evicted, and just last week found a 1-bedroom apartment. Apparently its pretty nice, with a community hot tub, a pool, a gym. Its close to our home still, but a little farther out .Munchkin has been commenting about how upset and depressed her mother has been and how she even cried for 2 whole days! Like I am supposed to feel SORRY for her mother and SYMPATHISE with her. Not going to happen Munchkin, sorry. Thats where my hmmmhmmm kicks in.
Toxic Troll has been asking Dh if he will let Feral Forger SD20 move in. Feral Forger even said hello to him and hugged him, before asking to move in "to his place". Eff you FF, its also MY place, and even more so NOW that we have made the purchase together. Munchkin agreed that it was a butter-up technique, for the sole purpose of using daddee as a soft landing space.
Dh mentioned in passing (largely due to his shock at being asked by FF herself) that there might be an open room at his mothers place. His mother, who is 97, has a 4/5 bed 2 bath house another town over. There, the older brother lives, and renters as well. The older sister is an executor of the estate. (previously, FF has made accusations against BOTH these fine folks. But they dont know her current escapades that have included check forging/cashing). ? Question? Do I tell them?
This weekend Toxic Troll calls Dh asking about what it woujld take to get Feral Forger into his mothers house. Dh, wisely, stated "she would have to call her uncle, apologise, and work something out with HIM, as he manages the entire houshold. And she cant do what she does at your place, and what she did at our place over here".
************ ok. Stop right there! Firstly, I dont like the fact that mothers house is even a POSSIBILITY, and it should not be presented as such (even to pacificy the troll.) Secondly, WTF. This is TOXIC TROLLS HOUSHOLD HENCE IT IS HER PROBLEM TO SOLVE. I understand that one of the issues that DH has is co-dependency. Hes a fixer, and its been a long 15 plus years of Toxic Troll coming to DH to fix things for her. Such as bringing her a gas can, and bags of groceries previously. I also understand that this is his child too. But its so convenient when theres a problem, "its his child too", but when schedules change or DRs appointment, nothing is discussed. which brings me to next thing. Im pissed at this one...
While speaking to Munchkin, she mentioned that "her mother is having her stay with us for the next 17 days, while she moves and stays with Crazy Sister". I asked DH, was this discussed? We are 50/50, with 5 days on/5 days off. I really enjoy that adult time, let me tell you. PLus she eats a LOT, and its a struggle to get her dishes done. Get her to do anything really, as sweet as she is, she takes ENERGY. In the normal way.
No - nothing was discussed with DH. Munchkin mentioned it to him too. So, as today (monday) is our "last of 5", DH will have to text her and ask about the next 2 plus weeks. Thats over half the month (technically 2/3) that we have kiddo. As awesome as that is, DH still will have to pay the Troll child support. Doesnt that warrant a heads up??????
Finally, the shocker. Thanks for reading this far, if youve gotten this far. Munchkin related to me her texts to her mother, telling Toxic Troll that she will no longer be living with her. That is if Feral Forger is allowed in the new apartment. She will not want to go there, anymore. We all know its an empty threat, but I was rather shocked as Munchkin is close to her bio mother, and she is typically controlled well by her mother. Shes pretty passive, but lately the tides have changed. Shes been elevated to adult status at her mothers, her mother treats her like a BFF, and asks for her opinion on how to deal with Feral Forger. ? Question? Do I explain the ins and outs of child custody, and that her father cannot violate that, nor file for full, and heres why? I dont want to burst her bubble of empowerment...or is it necessary??? Is she feeling too much power? "the child doesnt get to decide the custody schedule before 18."
so - as the time ticker speeds forwared, I am anxious about to what lengths Feral Forger will go to secure a place to land, what lengths Toxic Troll will go, to get rid of her problem child, and what lengths Mucnhkin will go to not have to live with her sister.