So I stated in my previous blog that I would update when I found out BM's reaction to SO getting full custody. This happened a week and a half ago and BM never bothered to come to court (previous blog).

Anyway, BM showed up to our house Saturday morning! This b*tch was supposedly states away and isn't even supposed to know where we live, so how the bleep did she find our address?! I know there are ways for such things, but it really bothers me that she knows b/c I'm concerned about SD's safety. Luckily SD was away with grandparents for the day, and SO and I just pretended to still be asleep so we wouldn't have to deal with CRAZY. She just rang the bell a few times and then left, but WTF. Now I have to feel insecure in my own home AGAIN. Shit like this happens every few months.

Just earlier this month BM's own mother (whom we're close to and helped us get custody) was supposed to meet BM for BM's birthday. Well, BM showed up an hour and a half late with a known violent man in her car, while another car with two more thugged out guys and three pitbulls pulled up on the other side of BM's mom (we'll call her grandma). Obviously coordinated with BM. Grandma was scared for her life and just pulled off and left without saying anything. Then proceeded to get threatening calls for the next three days with no clue how they got her personal number (on a phone she doesn't use for BM).

So, Grandma forwarded me this text that BM sent her Sunday night: "It would be nice to feel like I have a mother Why wont you answer I just tried to see *SD* I am counter suing and will get my daughter back glad that your other children are so much more important some things never change i found a place in *our town* and am not with *douchebag that beat me and hit SD*" That was verbatim folks. BM does have 30 days to contest the ruling, but the judge said that the only way the decision would change would be for BM to prove that SD is in a bad situation with us. And she's not. SD is happier than she's been in years; several people in her own extended family have already commented on that to us.

Grandmother responded to BM: "Be really careful...*SO* has full custody of *SD* which means you need to respectfully coordinate any visits with *SD* with him. You will go to jail if you try to spend time with her without his approval. You can coordinate those visits with StarStuff. She is doing an amazing job with *SD*". Ha, I'm sure BM loved hearing that.

So that's the extent of all that for now. BM moves every 3-4 months anyway, so hopefully she won't be here for long. SD told us Tuesday morning that she had a bad dream that BM picked her up from school. Poor kid. The school knows not to let BM pick SD up, and SD's out for Christmas break now anyway. Luckily we'll be out of town for the holiday and BM won't know where to find us and we have an alarm on the house so that should remain secure.

Happy holidays and such to all